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4. They told me to do it --"They talked me into going with<br />

them." "I am told what sales pitch to make, don't blame me if it<br />

isn't all true." "He/she just kept pushing until I gave in." "I do<br />

whatever the law says to do; if I was supposed to do more they<br />

would tell me to." See statement #5 above.<br />

5. Denial of responsibility --"I just went along with the crowd."<br />

"I felt certain someone else would help her, there were people<br />

all around." "One person like me can't do anything about<br />

poverty." "I'm going to cheat on my taxes because of all the<br />

free-loaders on welfare." See statements #5 <strong>and</strong> #6 <strong>and</strong> #7<br />

above.<br />

6. Denial of consequences --"I just dropped the bombs on the<br />

coordinates I was told <strong>and</strong> flew back to the base." "I only<br />

shoplift from big chain stores; they never miss it." "Paying<br />

farmers to not grow food doesn't really affect hunger." "TV just<br />

sensationalizes about hunger; there is enough <strong>for</strong> everyone to<br />

eat."<br />

7. Dehumanization --"There is nothing wrong with taking their<br />

l<strong>and</strong>; they are just savages." "If they are that dumb, it's their<br />

fault they are taken advantage of." "Those godless Communists<br />

kill anybody in their way; we'd better get them be<strong>for</strong>e they<br />

knife us in the back." See statement #8 above.<br />

8. You (the victim) caused me to do it --"If you hadn't been so<br />

nasty, I wouldn't have hit you." "You seemed like you were<br />

mad, so I went out with _____." "Those poor countries would<br />

take over this country if they could, I wouldn't give them a<br />

damned cent!" "The poor cause their own problems." See<br />

statement #8 above.<br />

B<strong>and</strong>ura believes that most inconsiderate, immoral behavior is due<br />

to these self-excusing mental mechanisms rather than a faulty value<br />

system. So one could "believe in" <strong>and</strong> espouse a highly moral<br />

philosophy of life <strong>and</strong> still find many ways to cop out. "To thy own self<br />

be true." Hopefully, by recognizing some of these defense or escape<br />

mechanisms, i.e. ways to escape from your own conscience, you are in<br />

a better position <strong>for</strong> judging if you are being cognitively honest with<br />

yourself <strong>and</strong> behaviorally true to your values. Do you use any of the<br />

rationalizations above? See chapters 4, 11, & 15.<br />

Pitfalls: repressing our moral st<strong>and</strong>ards or remembering our morals<br />

only if we are observed<br />

Besides using rationalizations to avoid the responsibilities imposed<br />

on us by our own morals <strong>and</strong> values (remember the Golden Rule is<br />

very dem<strong>and</strong>ing), we may have experiences that desensitized us to<br />

human cruelty <strong>and</strong> suffering. As Jerome Kagan (1984) observed, we<br />

are in danger of loosing our moral st<strong>and</strong>ards when our emotional<br />

reactions decline, e.g. when we see violence on TV or in horror movies<br />

<strong>and</strong> are not repulsed, when we see starving children <strong>and</strong> do not<br />

scream "this must stop," when we realize that someone is cheating on<br />

taxes, a test, or their spouse <strong>and</strong> let it pass. Negative emotions-indignation<br />

when injustice occurs--are a vital part of being moral. We<br />

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