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• A person with a family that he teaches to perform good receives<br />
more reward for good deeds than a single person, therefore one<br />
should include this in his intention also.<br />
• More children mean an increase in the number <strong>of</strong> Muslims.<br />
Ras[lull\h r will take pride in this.<br />
ETIQUETTES OF FINDING A PARTNER<br />
Ras[lull\h r commented:<br />
‘Do not marry women (merely) on account <strong>of</strong> their beauty, for it is<br />
possible that this very beauty may become the cause <strong>of</strong> her<br />
destruction. Neither marry women because <strong>of</strong> their wealth, for it is<br />
possible this may be a cause for her rebellion and mischief. Rather<br />
marry women because <strong>of</strong> their piety. A lowly slave-girl graced with<br />
piety and noble character is infinitely superior to a beautiful high class<br />
woman <strong>of</strong> poor character.’<br />
Ibn M\jah<br />
When one reaches the age <strong>of</strong> marriage, their opinion should always be<br />
taken into account. If due to uneasiness, they do not say anything or<br />
appear lost, their wishes can be ascertained by close friends or relatives<br />
whom the child feels comfortable talking to.<br />
Parents becoming aware <strong>of</strong> their child's thought patterns should<br />
consider the desired partner’s mannerisms, character, piety and<br />
suitability. At this stage, it is morally and Isl\mically very wrong and<br />
detrimental to the parent-child relationship to act in total disregard <strong>of</strong><br />
the child’s wishes or behind their backs in arranging a ‘suitable’ equalby-caste<br />
match.<br />
One should always remember that it is the couple who will be living<br />
together. If this is not considered, the possibility <strong>of</strong> unhappiness and<br />
discontentment, ending in heart-break and pain for our children, is<br />
very real. One must bear in mind the wishes <strong>of</strong> the couple. Obviously,<br />
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