Marriage - A Form of Ibadah

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• Ìb\dah. The person must be punctual on the fundamental pillars of Isl\m, e.g. %al\h, %awm, Zak\h. These are major issues which must not be trivialized; after all, looking in the long run, both husband and wife will want to be together in the next life, too. • Good character. For obvious reasons one would want to get married to one who has good character, and who understands that in different situations, one’s own opinion should not supercede sense. • Integrity in dealings. No one wants to marry a thief or be called the partner of one. • Social conduct. Although one should not worry about what people say, one should also not give the opportunity to be spoken bad about because of one’s own conduct. One’s spouse should also be up to this standard. • Health. One must not discriminate against a person because they suffer from an illness. But one must remember that it is natural that a person has a dislike of it. This will lead to problems, if the illness is not curable or controllable. • Relationship. Often, though definitely not always, there is greater compatibility and understanding between people who share similar backgrounds or come from the same culture. • Temperament. Ideally both the boy and girl should enjoy the same outlook, otherwise life would present more problems than solutions. • Education. Both should have received at least a foundational level of Isl\mic education and basic secular education and not be intellectually miles apart. • Housekeeping Skills. It is important that both the partners be competent in all or most aspects of domestic responsibilities, and be willing to help each other. The boy should also have a profession or skill or some other means of earning a *al\l livelihood to be able to maintain his family without dependance on others. 30
• Bad habits. It is also imperative to find out whether the boy or girl suffer from any problems or bad habits, e.g. drugs, alcohol or addiction to TV. DU`¬’ All\h I promises in the Qur'\n: 'Make du`\’ to (call upon) Me, I shall answer you’ al-Gh\fir 40:60 Ras[lull\h r also gave the glad tidings; ‘Whoever the door of du`\’ is opened for among you, the doors of mercy have been opened for him.’ at-Tirmidh| He also explained: ‘Only du`\’ is able to alter taqd|r (fate)’. at-Tirmidh| The Messenger r further elaborated: ‘There is no Muslim who makes a du`\’ that is free from (asking for) sin or severing ties of blood, except All\h gives him one of three things: • All\h answers for him his prayer in this world, or • He stores it for him in the Hereafter, or • He averts from him an evil equivalent to it.’ The %a#\bah y exclaimed, ‘In that case we will surely profiteer!’ ‘All\h has more,’ said the Messenger r. A # m a d Examples Of Relevant Adìyah (Supplications) RABBAN HAB LAN MIN ‘AZWJIN WA DHURRIY-YTIN QURRATA ‘A`YUNIW-WAJÀLN LIL MUTTAQ•NA ‘IMM 31
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Page 3 and 4: INTRODUCTION Marriage marks a uniqu
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Page 41 and 42: idegroom should say the complete se
Page 43 and 44: THE BRIDE’S ARRIVAL Neither shoul
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Page 53 and 54: ORAL SEX While the genital organs,
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Page 71 and 72: to rectify them. If one has people
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Page 75 and 76: ÂL¬Q - DIVORCE . BACKGROUND ‘Th
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Page 79 and 80: GLOSSARY B\’in A form of divorce
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