Marriage - A Form of Ibadah

MEN’S PROBLEMS
EARLY DISCHARGE
Premature ejaculation is probably the most common sexual problem
for a man. Rarely due to a physical cause, in most cases the problem
stems from a lack of psychological preparation such as anxiety. Viewing
pornography and masturbation also contribute to this.
PREPARATION IS THE CURE
People suffering from premature ejaculation should try to keep the
mind from focusing too intently on sex prior to and, as far as possible,
during the act itself as mental excitement speeds up ejaculation.
Confidence in being able to satisfy one’s wife and determination also
play a big part in allowing one to have more fulfilling sex.
Taking time for foreplay before sex is in the interests of both partners as
it allows the woman time to build up to a level of arousal on par with
the man’s so that both achieve an orgasm, and close enough in
synchrony, regardless of how long the actual act lasts (refer to Foreplay
and Orgasm, p.55.) The husband and wife should not be afraid to
explore each other to find different styles and positions that are
comfortable and pleasing to each other.
Part of the psychological preparation is overcoming tension and
nervousness, often the root cause for ejaculating too soon. Anxiety in
the young and inexperienced, and an inflated sense of selfconsciousness
in the old are particularly common reasons.
Reassurance and encouragement from the partner are usually all that is
required to instil self-confidance. If she feels the husband is about to
ejaculate too early, the wife should encourage him by talking and
getting him to take deep breaths and withdraw his penis. By gently
clasping the base of the penis allowing him to regain his breath, the
husband will slowly regain composure and a ‘second wind’. It may
sometimes be necessary to seek help and advice from a therapist.
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