Marriage - A Form of Ibadah

THE BRIDE’S ARRIVAL
Neither should the new wife be unladylike or foolish by talking too
much, nor should she withdraw to the extent that people have to plead
to get a word out, as this too is a sign of idiocy/arrogance.
Should the bride find any aspect of living with in-laws displeasing, she
must not relate this to her own parents or anyone else for them to
gossip about. This is backbiting, and only serves to ignite strife,
arguments and disputes, nothing positive from this is ever achieved.
Instead, she should discuss her concerns with her husband, choosing
an appropriate time, and he in turn must listen to her and work to
resolve the issue with her based on fairness in a way to minimise
unpleasantness and pain for both his wife and his parents.
The new wife should live amongst her in-laws with dignity from the
very first day as first impressions last forever, showing compassion to
juniors and treating elders with respect. She should try to never
delegate any of her responsibilities to others nor leave things lying
around for others to put away. She should help the in-laws in domestic
duties, as this will create mutual love. Upon arrival at her in-law's, even
if the heart feels uncomfortable with new people and a new place, the
bride should keep calm and not spend her time in tears.
As long as her husband’s parents are alive, the bride should try to serve
them and consider this service a source of reward. With sacrifice they
brought up their son bringing him to where he is now. In old age, they
can justifiably expect service from their children. The bride should be
careful of allowing anything to happen that would give the impression
that she is trying to distance her husband from his parents.
This practical advice in no way refuses the wife her W\jib (obligatory)
right of separate living quarters if she so wishes. But this should not be
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