GLAMSQUAD MAGAZINE MAY 2019

INTERVIEW
I get to make my own
decision, and my husband
allows me to act according to
what I want. I am free to make
my choice without my husband’s
interference, I live an open
life with my husband, and this
has earned me his heart and
trust. Therefore the idea to take
permission every time does not
arise.
Do you think women are
treated well in marriage and
the society at large?
I can only speak of my
marriage to Chief Rasaq Okoya,
which I do not regret. Which I
have been a happy mother
and wife for the past 20 years of
marriage to him. I will continue to
pray to God to keep it so.
This is a patriarchal society,
which relegates women
to second class status, do
you think women should do
something about it, and should
we now kick against it?
No woman should feel
relegated in today’s society,
irrespective of being submissive
to one’s partner. All women
should rise to get formal
education or trade in something
to contribute their quota to
the community. Respect is
reciprocal.
Do you understand feminism,
and are you a feminist?
Feminism is a social
movement and ideology that
fights for the political, economic
and social rights of women.
Feminists believe that men and
women are equal, and women
deserve the same rights as men
in society. In my 20 years of
marriage and social life, I have
always seen my husband as the
head of the family which he will
continue to be forever. Feminism
does not arise in a cultural
Nigerian family setting.
There is grave poverty in
Nigeria, which makes young
girls do funny things. Are you
protective of your husband
getting into the clutches of
desperate women looking
for rich men? Do you have a
niggling fear, that someday,
one desperate girl looking for
a rich man would upstage
you? Or you are very confident
of your stand, especially after
20years, and going strong?
I have no fears at all; my
marriage has stood the test of
time and am not all afraid. It
takes a lot to keep and maintain
a home. I am very confident of
holding on to my marriage, and I
am a loving, caring, honest and
hardworking wife. My love for my
husband keeps growing stronger
every second of the day. I
receive the same affections in
return from him.
In what ways do you renew
yourself, so you do not become
predictable, and thus always
exciting?
I am a total package. I am a
very devoted and loving wife.
Everything I do or say comes
as an inspiration from God.
They say marriage is an
institution, do you agree?
I agree that Marriage is an
institution recognised, but only
the loving and caring spouses
and through blessings from God
can hold it firm. I believe once
you enter into a marriage, you
should stay in it irrespective of all
challenges.
An institution is a place of
learning, what have you learnt
and how do you apply what
you have learnt?
It is a continuous learning
process; one can only survive the
marriage institution if determined
plus God’s special blessing.
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