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"They were predators and they targeted you. It felt like a choice
but it wasn’t really. You didn’t choose it, it chose you."
Tabby
you’re so abusive that I saw myself as
the abuser. It got to the point where I
saw myself as this really flawed
creature who could not do anything
right.
Naomi: That’s the guilt and shame. I
think it’s really important to
understand it as we don’t really even
know that we have this guilt and
shame that we live with, we don’t know
what to call it because we’re trying to
save face we’re trying to look strong.
Someone says it’s your fault, don’t you
SEE? Don’t you see that I do this
because of you? You hear that all the
time and it’s just furthering your selfesteem
further down until you have
nothing left.
Tabby: I would like to add that
education is absolutely key,
understanding that we didn’t choose to
be abused, we didn’t choose to be in
those groups, they were predators and
they targeted you. It felt like a choice
but it wasn’t really. You didn’t choose
it, it chose you. I think the other thing
that I would share as well is just to try
and go with the evidenced based
science as much as possible. I know
there’s merit in religions and things
like that but try not to go for
something that has one central figure
at the top who is alive and who people
seem to be talking about all the time.
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