SPT-Fall2014
SPT-Fall2014
SPT-Fall2014
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Dare to Be You!<br />
By Isabelle Tierney, MA, LMFT<br />
"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is<br />
the greatest accomplishment." Emerson<br />
Some time in the past . . .<br />
I'm in the middle of a hot yoga class, bending, sweating, pushing my body, struggling to not<br />
pass out from the heat and my fight-or-flight breath. I feel awkward, big and not flexible<br />
enough. I feel like a loser.<br />
I look around hoping to find someone who might sympathize with my pain. No such luck. All<br />
I see is a bevy of young, beautiful bodies who hold an amazing mix of strength, flexibility,<br />
and, most enviously of all, thinness.<br />
In this moment, I truly wish I had a<br />
different body, a body like “theirs”. I<br />
want to effortlessly open my legs into<br />
the splits, fly up into handstand, and<br />
sink into a perfect Warrior II. I want<br />
to be thin, flexible, and buff like these<br />
yogis because I assume that they<br />
must be leading perfectly enlightened<br />
and connected lives.<br />
And while I know that this body of<br />
mine will probably never be able to<br />
attain that kind of “perfection”, I do<br />
not care. I will do whatever it takes to<br />
push my body into these poses, into<br />
these perfect lives. Because being me<br />
is not good enough. Being me means<br />
I have this imperfect body. Being me<br />
means I struggle with an eating<br />
disorder. Being me means I will<br />
always believe that I’m a f**k-up no<br />
matter how hard I try to be better.<br />
The Art of Comparison<br />
Over time, I learn the art of<br />
comparison to try to move toward<br />
“perfection”. I leave my body and<br />
look outside of myself to learn how to<br />
become thin-enough, which means<br />
good-enough, which means loveableenough.<br />
How much does “she” eat?<br />
How long can “she” hold that sideangle<br />
pose? How often does “she”<br />
exercise? What is “she” wearing<br />
today?<br />
And then I try to do the exact same<br />
thing. Even if I’m so hungry and tired<br />
that my body wants to pass out. Even<br />
if every muscle is screaming for<br />
mercy. Even if my clothes look<br />
ridiculous on me. It doesn’t matter.<br />
I’m moving farther away from my<br />
not good-enough self and coming<br />
closer to the woman I want to be.<br />
Somatic Psychotherapy Today | Fall 2014 | Volume 4 Number 2 | page 74