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go<strong>in</strong>g to war. We had just f<strong>in</strong>ished the war with America and then<br />
started one with Cambodia. I told my parents, “I want to be a monk,”<br />
and they responded “No!” It was simply out of the question.<br />
Why were they so def<strong>in</strong>ite, say<strong>in</strong>g no like that<br />
I was the only son. <strong>The</strong>y were rely<strong>in</strong>g on me to cont<strong>in</strong>ue the family<br />
through hav<strong>in</strong>g children and tak<strong>in</strong>g care of the family’s future. Also<br />
my father was a military man, a communist high <strong>in</strong> the government, a<br />
man of action. Accord<strong>in</strong>g to him, monks were lazy and shirked their<br />
responsibility to build the new Vietnam. <strong>The</strong>y were anti-communist.<br />
For his own son to be a monk was unth<strong>in</strong>kable.<br />
What was your father’s career<br />
My father’s elder brother jo<strong>in</strong>ed the resistance<br />
army, fight<strong>in</strong>g the French when he was<br />
sixteen. It was the branch of the Viet M<strong>in</strong>h which<br />
was to become Communist. He soon persuaded<br />
his fourteen-year-old brother to jo<strong>in</strong> him. It was<br />
1945 and my father stayed <strong>in</strong> the army until 1968.<br />
<strong>The</strong> Communist Party put him <strong>in</strong> charge of a<br />
construction company and eventually he became<br />
the ma<strong>in</strong> government official for construction <strong>in</strong><br />
Vietnam.<br />
<strong>The</strong>re seems to be a parallel between his<br />
choice to jo<strong>in</strong> the resistance army <strong>in</strong> the mounta<strong>in</strong>s<br />
and you as a boy of the same age want<strong>in</strong>g<br />
to become a monk. Both offer a life <strong>in</strong> Sangha<br />
and a sense of purpose, even adventure.<br />
Every s<strong>in</strong>gle th<strong>in</strong>g<br />
they tell you <strong>in</strong><br />
the army waters<br />
the seeds of fear,<br />
anger, and violence<br />
<strong>in</strong> you.<br />
Can you say someth<strong>in</strong>g of your experience<br />
as a soldier<br />
I didn’t choose to go <strong>in</strong>to the army, I was drafted. Before that I’d<br />
tra<strong>in</strong>ed as a chef and was work<strong>in</strong>g for a tourist company. In 1985, I<br />
underwent six months of army tra<strong>in</strong><strong>in</strong>g and they s<strong>in</strong>gled me out to be<br />
<strong>in</strong> the special forces and receive more tra<strong>in</strong><strong>in</strong>g. I found myself be<strong>in</strong>g<br />
dropped <strong>in</strong>to Cambodian forests on reconnaissance missions. Many<br />
traumatic th<strong>in</strong>gs happened. One day <strong>in</strong> a jeep I heard a loud crack and<br />
looked around to see that my friend had been shot <strong>in</strong> the head. I drove<br />
off, escap<strong>in</strong>g his fate. After two years <strong>in</strong> Cambodia one mission went<br />
badly wrong and we found ourselves surrounded by Khmer Rouge<br />
soldiers. One of our team made a run for it and was shot down immediately.<br />
<strong>The</strong> rest of us waited, defend<strong>in</strong>g our position for days until<br />
another team was sent <strong>in</strong> to rescue us. One other soldier survived along<br />
with me without serious <strong>in</strong>jury, another I had to carry out after he lost<br />
his legs stepp<strong>in</strong>g on a land m<strong>in</strong>e. He died later <strong>in</strong> the hospital. Although<br />
my father was proud that I was <strong>in</strong> the army, after that <strong>in</strong>cident he was<br />
scared for my life and arranged through his contacts to have me taken<br />
out. I am grateful to him for that.<br />
Did you have to kill people on the missions<br />
We were there to gather <strong>in</strong>formation so the regular army could<br />
go <strong>in</strong>. But on occasion that happened. It was always dark, silent, and<br />
I seldom saw their faces.<br />
How do you feel about them now<br />
<strong>The</strong>y are still with me.<br />
<strong>in</strong>ter view with THAY PHAP DO<br />
How did you feel about your two years of army service and be<strong>in</strong>g<br />
a civilian aga<strong>in</strong><br />
I felt happy to be alive—I had survived. I also felt very proud<br />
and confident. I had risked my life carry<strong>in</strong>g out a noble task. As my<br />
friend <strong>in</strong> our team put it <strong>in</strong> a song he wrote: we had taken on the burden<br />
everybody else refused. We had freed Cambodia from Pol Pot and<br />
the Khmer Rouge. That is how we saw it. I don’t view it so simply<br />
now—there was also the desire to conquer another land and people.<br />
But as far as be<strong>in</strong>g back <strong>in</strong> civilian life was concerned, I was fearless.<br />
I wouldn’t let anyone speak down to me no matter what position<br />
they were <strong>in</strong>. I never physically hurt anyone<br />
but no one ever challenged me. Look<strong>in</strong>g deeply<br />
now I can see that the pride and violence <strong>in</strong> me<br />
caused me and others to suffer. But at the time<br />
I felt okay and focused on mak<strong>in</strong>g a success of<br />
my life as a civilian.<br />
What happened then<br />
I got a job as a chef and soon after my boss<br />
asked me to go to Frankfurt to be head chef<br />
at his Vietnamese restaurant there. I had the<br />
usual dream of mak<strong>in</strong>g lots of money, hav<strong>in</strong>g<br />
a fancy house and car for me and my fiancee.<br />
We were very committed to each other and she<br />
completely supported me <strong>in</strong> go<strong>in</strong>g abroad. We<br />
thought it would be a good start for our security<br />
and happ<strong>in</strong>ess <strong>in</strong> the future. And I’d be able to<br />
give money to my family. It’s not that they were<br />
poor, but to be able to repay your gratitude to<br />
your parents is a big th<strong>in</strong>g <strong>in</strong> Asian culture and<br />
money is the usual way. So off I went.<br />
After some time <strong>in</strong> Frankfurt some disillusionment with my<br />
dream crept <strong>in</strong>. Although I admired the owner of the restaurant for<br />
his success, I could see that it did not br<strong>in</strong>g him happ<strong>in</strong>ess. He had<br />
family difficulties and suffered a lot. I began to have difficulties too.<br />
<strong>The</strong> restaurant work was stressful and I couldn’t control my anger with<br />
the other cooks. We had a big turnover of customers who would often<br />
come <strong>in</strong> drunk, would dr<strong>in</strong>k more, be noisy, eat quickly, and leave. I<br />
would get back home most nights at around two a.m. and dr<strong>in</strong>k beer,<br />
smoke, and watch videos to unw<strong>in</strong>d. But I found that, especially with<br />
the alcohol and violent images, memories would come up <strong>in</strong> my m<strong>in</strong>d,<br />
particularly <strong>in</strong> dreams.<br />
I knew someth<strong>in</strong>g had to change. I began by quitt<strong>in</strong>g smok<strong>in</strong>g<br />
and dr<strong>in</strong>k<strong>in</strong>g and exercis<strong>in</strong>g regularly, and I started to feel much better.<br />
Still it wasn’t enough. So when my friend V<strong>in</strong>h said he was plann<strong>in</strong>g<br />
to start a quiet vegetarian restaurant <strong>in</strong> Berl<strong>in</strong> I told him I wanted to<br />
jo<strong>in</strong> him. A few months later I moved to Berl<strong>in</strong>.<br />
In the vegetarian restaurant, the customers enjoyed their food<br />
and they seldom smoked or drank, except for a glass of w<strong>in</strong>e. <strong>The</strong><br />
atmosphere was relaxed and pleasant. V<strong>in</strong>h went to see Thay speak <strong>in</strong><br />
Berl<strong>in</strong> <strong>in</strong> 1994 and when he came back, he offered me an audiotape of<br />
the talk. I was extremely impressed so I started read<strong>in</strong>g Thay’s books.<br />
<strong>The</strong>n some monastics came to Berl<strong>in</strong> <strong>in</strong> the spr<strong>in</strong>g of 1995 to offer a<br />
Vietnamese retreat. We <strong>in</strong>vited them to the restaurant, and talk<strong>in</strong>g to<br />
Brother Phap An, Brother Phap Dang, and Brother Phap Dung, I could<br />
see a real quality of happ<strong>in</strong>ess and peace about them that I wanted too.<br />
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