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Day 18<br />
Find Your N.U.Ts<br />
Editor’s Note: This section written by Wayne Levine. This exercise fits nicely into<br />
the project, as it builds on our first task, which was to find our core values. Your<br />
N.U.T.s are the specific and concrete terms that spring from those general core<br />
values. For example, if one of your core values is fitness, then something like, “I<br />
will workout 6 times a week no matter what,” might be one of your N.U.T.s. Let<br />
Wayne explain more.<br />
One of the most important challenges facing every good man who wants to<br />
be better is to know exactly what he’s committed to. Without a clear understanding<br />
of what is acceptable and what is not, a man is untethered, and<br />
likely to find himself down a path of compromise, resentment, and despair.<br />
So, what’s a better man to do? Find his N.U.Ts and maintain a firm grasp.<br />
N.U.Ts are your Non-negotiable, Unalterable Terms. N.U.Ts are the<br />
things you’re committed to, the things that matter more than anything else:<br />
your kids, your career, your primary relationships, yourself, your purpose,<br />
your spiritual practice, your hobbies, your integrity, your morals, and your<br />
psychological well-being.<br />
N.U.Ts are the boundaries that define you as man, those things which,<br />
if repeatedly compromised, will gradually – but assuredly – turn you into a<br />
pissed-off, resentful man who will likely blame others for your unhappiness.<br />
Your N.U.Ts are uniquely yours. They reflect who you are as a man and<br />
the man you want to be. Compromise your N.U.Ts, and you’ll compromise<br />
yourself. Compromise yourself too often, and you’ll become an extremely<br />
unhappy man, husband, and father.