Thich Nhat Hanh Healing in Vietnam The Wonderful World of Gathas

peaceful HEARTIn the case of your family, when you have to listen to all ofthese military stories, that may not be what they really wanted totalk about. They may not know how to talk about anything else.Yesterday in our dharma discussions we were talking about themindfulness trainings and a sister shared how she used alcohol asan ice-breaker, a tool to let go and to be able to talk from the heartand connect with people. This touched me very deeply, becausethe reason I’m a monk and the reason I practice is because I seeso much of the suffering that comes from our disconnection.You can’t say enough aboutwhat looking at a few goodmountains can do for you.I was struck in my first year coming to Plum Village as anovice monk how I was able to connect with people at the heartlevel. Ordinarily we connect with people because we have thingsin common. We talk about work, the kids, or movies, music, art,whatever. With the practice we don’t have to have the same background,the same taste in music or sports or philosophy. BecauseI am practicing to open my heart, and you are practicing to openyour heart, I can connect with you. If I didn’t have the practicethere’d be no chance I would connect with all these different typesof people. In the case of our family, with the practice, we find ourown creative way to do that.With my father, I was finally able to say, “Father, how are you?How do you feel?” I was able to make a connection. It’s differentfor each one of us. We have our own style, our own way, and wefind that with our rootedness, with our stability.Sister Susan — Mountain LoveYou just can’t say enough about how important it is to getnourishment. You can’t say enough about what looking at a fewgood mountains can do for you.I look at these mountains around here and what they say tome is, I’ve been around here for a billion years, and I can tell you athing or two — not just about stability and rocks, but about beauty.There’s a lot of beauty in a billion years, and it touches my heartover and over again. It fills my heart to the brim, and that does a lotto pour a balm over what I hear about Lebanon and Israel, and toknow that suffering there. I helps me to know that there is beautyin the world, that things are all right somewhere.It’s so crucial to look daily and to let yourself be free. For meit helps me let go of the complexities. People get in knots withgovernment leaders, they can’t solve their problems, there areconflicting ideas and conflicting pains. People don’t know howto figure them out.I can’t criticize without looking deeply. I need all the calm Ican muster, all the mindfulness, looking carefully at both sides,staying calm, and knowing how it feels to be in those shoes — whatwould it be like to suffer.Everyone has an amount of media that they can take. I take asmuch as I can, and then I know I can’t take any more. I look at alot of mountains! Then I need to see the suffering, and there is somuch suffering I don’t see, obviously. When I find myself feelingdespair, I know I need to be outside.We don’t look at our earth nearly enough. We have so littleclue of our connection to the outside world, to our physical world.We get stuck in four walls and in personalities. The more we canconnect with the world we live in, the more we can see the biggerpicture and grow our calm. Our government leaders need all ofour wisdom and calm, and the more that our views change, as ourbrother said, it will become so obvious. But we need to have allthat calm and clarity and happiness. Our happiness comes from ournourishment level and our compassion level; they go together.We need to make our families our intimacy. Bonding needsto be really strong. We need to let go of things like military, whichpolitical side our families are on. Families need to be intimate.I remember this wonderful story of Thay giving questions andanswers; this lady was going on and on about how her daughterwas into computers too much and it just drove her crazy. Shewas saying over and over how destructive it was and finally Thayinterrupted her, saying, “You really need to learn how to play thecomputer with your daughter.” [laughter]I get into this with my son. Sometimes we get on oppositesides, but that bond with our loved ones is so important. You needlove so much. Ninety percent of the time it is about love anyway.We need it so much.Transcribed by Greg Sever; edited by Janelle Combelic.20 Summer 2007