Ministering to the Young Single Adult - Elmer Towns
Ministering to the Young Single Adult - Elmer Towns
Ministering to the Young Single Adult - Elmer Towns
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2. The stereotyped image of <strong>the</strong> younger person. The church considers <strong>the</strong> youngsingle adult as impulsive, immature and unreliable. If a boy is going in<strong>to</strong> <strong>the</strong> armedservices he is not ready for business or church responsibility, and if a girl is not married<strong>the</strong>re is some “lack.” But this stereotyped image is beginning <strong>to</strong> crumble, and <strong>the</strong> statusof <strong>the</strong> young single adult is being accepted in our society.3. The psychological barriers erected between <strong>the</strong> older generation and <strong>the</strong>younger. The older generation tends <strong>to</strong> stand aloof from <strong>the</strong> needs, interests and desires of<strong>the</strong> young single adult. The older generation feels its responsibility for <strong>the</strong> youngerchildren, but this responsibility is ended when this person becomes an adult. The averageolder adult considers <strong>the</strong> young single adult as an “equal,” whereas, in actuality, olderadults should be ministering <strong>to</strong> children and young single adults, as well as <strong>the</strong>mselves.4. Mistaken ideas about his desires. There is a tendency <strong>to</strong> think that all <strong>the</strong>young single adult wants is financial independence and freedom from responsibility,when in reality he wants a feeling of being useful, being loved and being wanted.Sometimes it is assumed that <strong>the</strong> loneliness he experiences results from his owncarelessness and desire for independence.5. An overemphasis on children and youth. Many churches have cultivated <strong>the</strong>attitude that education is for <strong>the</strong> “kids.” The young single adult is considered “fast,”“flighty” and “free.” Time spent on him is wasted, and as one deacon said, “You can’tbuild a mature congregation on <strong>the</strong>se people.” However, every individual in our church isa person who has needs, and our ministry is “<strong>to</strong> communicate <strong>the</strong> gospel at <strong>the</strong> point ofneed.”6. The emphasis placed on marriage and <strong>the</strong> family. The average church programis oriented <strong>to</strong> <strong>the</strong> family. The family pew, <strong>the</strong> family picnic and family altar have longbeen emphasized by <strong>the</strong> church. Now many churches are calling <strong>the</strong>ir Wednesday nightBible study and prayer meeting “family night.” The emphasis on <strong>the</strong> family is needed,and nothing should be taken away from this emphasis. However, <strong>the</strong> young single adult islost in <strong>the</strong> shuffle and as a result is neglected.This neglect is a paradox. The unique problems, needs and contributions of <strong>the</strong>young single adult are neglected while <strong>the</strong> church tries <strong>to</strong> pressure him in<strong>to</strong> its mold.Church members from <strong>the</strong> working world want him <strong>to</strong> join <strong>the</strong>m. They want him <strong>to</strong>succeed both at <strong>the</strong> church and in business life. For <strong>the</strong> most part <strong>the</strong> church is moreinterested in <strong>the</strong> young adult and his success in business life than in his own personalproblems. Business men in <strong>the</strong> church are glad <strong>to</strong> see him and will try <strong>to</strong> sell himinsurance, clothing and all kinds of luxuries. They will even extend credit <strong>to</strong> him-not,however, as much as if he were married.The average church member puts pressure on <strong>the</strong> young single adult <strong>to</strong> getmarried. This is a pressure of conformity. The church community wants him <strong>to</strong> be like<strong>the</strong> majority of <strong>the</strong>m, wants him <strong>to</strong> watch <strong>the</strong> same kind of television programs, go <strong>to</strong> <strong>the</strong>same athletic events and <strong>the</strong> same parties. However, his unique problems and needs areneglected.