- Page 4 and 5: CONTENTS Introduction: The Like Swi
- Page 6 and 7: THE LIKE SWITCH How to Turn People
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- Page 12 and 13: FREQUENCY AND DURATION Duration has
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interlacing their fingers indicate
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3 THE GOLDEN RULE OF FRIENDSHIP You
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happy. You can naturally say, “So
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Note that Ben did not directly tell
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TAKING THE PRIMACY EFFECT TO THE BA
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spent there. Finally, add intensity
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“All right, I’ll give you an up
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With the advent of affirmative acti
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Most of us have family members or e
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of this law by mailing people retur
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Individuals who use humor in social
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One of my students told me of a com
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Extroverts use stream of consciousn
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5 SPEAKING THE LANGUAGE OF FRIENDSH
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The downside for Stacey in using th
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RULE #2: OBSERVE: IN ANY VERBAL INT
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Even if they do become aware that t
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Pursed Lips Observing for lip purse
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Lip Compression LIP TOUCHING Self-t
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Make it a habit to pause for a nano
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around and, sure enough, there was
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4. individuals will thank you for b
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In response to the empathic elicita
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so, you are fulfilling the other pe
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6 BUILDING CLOSENESS The loftiest e
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firmly touches the small of the wom
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Examples of good rapport (top photo
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The hair flip sequence POSTURAL POS
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Torso repositioning sequence BARRIE
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The agent took the time to discuss
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he buildup of good rapport over tim
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(Difficult question): Identify (nam
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Can you identify the friend signal
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7 NURTURING AND SUSTAINING LONG-TER
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understanding of your partner’s p
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Sadistic partners earn their title
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distinctly more pleasant environmen
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Unless you are sure, it can be a go
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REENTERING THE ANGER CYCLE In the e
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8 THE PERILS AND PROMISE OF RELATIO
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is someone you meet face-to-face or
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programs that screen attachments (f
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innocuous veracity tests are not ab
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steal the money. I’m telling you
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THE PRIMACY EFFECT Truth bias creat
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COGNITIVE DISSONANCE Cognitive diss
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EPILOGUE The Friendship Formula in
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manners and habits, she was the dir
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and documents and I gave her the 15
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APPENDIX Answers to “What Do You
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ABOUT THE AUTHORS JOHN R. “JACK
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BIBLIOGRAPHY Ajzen, I. (1977). Info
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Lynn, M., & McCall, M. (2000). Grat
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CARE acronym, 188, 198. See also Ac
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Face masks, 58-59 Face-to-face inte
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Lip bite, 137, 137-38 Lip compressi
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graffiti problem solved via, 148-49
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Verbal communication, 120-60 ego ch