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Isopraxism (mirroring) gestures<br />
Mirroring takes practice. Fortunately, you can rehearse mirroring in any professional or social setting.<br />
When you casually talk to a group of friends at work or in a social setting, you will notice that the members<br />
of the group will mirror one another. To practice the mirroring technique, change your stance or posture.<br />
Within a short period of time, other members of the group will mirror your posture. <strong>The</strong> first few times<br />
you do this, you may feel as though everybody in the group knows what you are doing. I can assure you<br />
they will not know. What you are experiencing is the spotlight effect described later in this chapter. Another<br />
way to practice isopraxism is to mirror random people when you meet them. After a few sessions, you will<br />
master the mirroring technique and will be able to use it as an additional tool in establishing friendships.<br />
THE INWARD LEAN<br />
People tend to lean toward individuals they like and distance themselves from people they don’t like.<br />
Occasionally during my FBI career, I was asked to attend embassy parties and diplomatic functions. I spent<br />
most of my time observing the other guests to determine which relationships were well established, which<br />
relationships were developing, and which guests were receptive to relationship building.<br />
An inward lean is receptive to relationship building. Inward leaning between people conversing indicates a positive relationship has already been established.<br />
Inward leaning in association with other friend signals such as smiles, head nodding, head tilts, whispering, and touching indicates an even closer<br />
relationship between the parties involved.