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Practicing Assertiveness<br />
The way you speak, move, dress, and react can affect how you are treated by providers.<br />
Assertiveness experts offer these tips on getting results at an appointment<br />
or meeting:<br />
Project the right image.<br />
• Dress neatly.<br />
• Greet people firmly. Make strong eye contact.<br />
• Take time to organize records and paperwork.<br />
• Sit or stand in an upright but relaxed way. Keep your body still and relaxed.<br />
Fidgeting will make you seem uneasy or lacking in confidence.<br />
• If you feel nervous, practice what you want to say ahead of time.<br />
Speak with confidence.<br />
• State clearly and calmly what you believe to be true (“I think that... I feel<br />
that...”).<br />
• Speak up in a strong tone of voice without asking for permission or making<br />
apologies.<br />
• Don’t try to attack, bully, blame, or shame the other person. Your goal is to<br />
solve problems, not win arguments.<br />
• Listen to the other person carefully. Show you are listening by wearing an<br />
alert, attentive expression.<br />
• Refer to the other person’s point of view when you give a different opinion (“I<br />
understand that you feel...but I believe...”).<br />
• When you honestly agree with the person, say so. A little stroking never hurts<br />
(“Yes, that seems like a good idea.”).<br />
• Don’t raise your voice. If you aren’t satisfied, say so politely but firmly. Make<br />
suggestions. Ask for ideas.<br />
Show you expect results.<br />
• Before you leave the room, briefly sum up the discussion, describing what<br />
each person has agreed to do.<br />
• State decisions in terms of “we” and “us” (“So, as I understand it, we’ve<br />
decided to...”). Remember, you are the other vote in the room.<br />
• If you think the other person may not clearly understand or stick to the agreement,<br />
send a note that sums up the decisions made in your meeting. Keep a<br />
copy for your files. In case of a conflict, this letter becomes part of the record<br />
to help you get results.<br />
Learn More<br />
The Mouse, the Monster and<br />
Me: Assertiveness for Young<br />
People by Pat Palmer Ed.D.,<br />
author; Louise Hart, Ed.D.,<br />
editor; Sue Rama (illustrator).<br />
This is a delightful little<br />
book that conveys ideas<br />
about assertive behavior<br />
to young children. It’s never<br />
too early to start teaching<br />
children to express themselves<br />
calmly but firmly,<br />
particularly when talking<br />
about their own treatment<br />
needs. A good resource for<br />
the waiting room! Find it at<br />
www.amazon.com.<br />
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