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30 Days to a better man<br />
Finally, we often fear failure and rejection because it hurts to think<br />
that we’re not as suave or talented as we had supposed. This is a blow<br />
to the ego. But when we don’t act on our fears, we send a message to<br />
ourselves that we are in fact cowardly, and this subconsciously wears<br />
away our sense of self and will stick with us far after the sting of any<br />
failed enterprise has passed.<br />
Maybe it’s time you updated your criteria for risk assessment.<br />
3. Act courageous. Teddy Roosevelt overcame his fears by acting as if<br />
he were not afraid. Do the same:<br />
“There were all kinds of things of which I was afraid of at first, ranging<br />
from grizzly bears to “mean” horses and gun-fighters; but by acting as if<br />
I was not afraid I gradually ceased to afraid.”<br />
4. Think about the great men of history. Our own personal fears and<br />
challenges can seem overwhelming and insurmountable. But with the<br />
proper perspective, they can seem rightfully manageable. The next<br />
time you feel paralyzed by a fear, think of the courageous men of the<br />
past. Think of Edmund Hillary ascending Mt. Everest, the Freedom<br />
Riders meeting a crowd of angry Klansmen, the astronauts sitting<br />
in Apollo 13. You’ll soon think, “Dammit! And here I am unable to<br />
make this flippin’ phone call!”<br />
5. Kill the fear with logic. As we mentioned above, fear is not a rational<br />
thing. The solution is thus to kill it with logic. The best way to do<br />
this is to ask yourself this question: “If I do this, what is the worst that<br />
can happen?”<br />
What’s the worst that could happen if you asked someone out and<br />
they said no? You didn’t have a date then, you don’t have a date now.<br />
Nothing has changed.<br />
What’s the worst that could happen if you apply for a job and don’t<br />
get it? You didn’t have the job before, you don’t have the job now.<br />
Nothing has changed.<br />
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