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30 Days to a better man<br />
up to or admired and wish you had a better relationship with. If you’re<br />
looking for a mentor to help you in your career, look around at the<br />
men you know at work that have been in the game awhile and know<br />
the ropes. If you’re a student, you might want to pick a professor that<br />
really inspires you academically. If you’re looking for a mentor to help<br />
you be an overall better man, simply think of the men you know and<br />
admire. While we often think of a mentor as being older than us, a<br />
mentor can be a guy the same age as you, who just has his life together<br />
a bit more or who lives his life in a way you really admire. Also, don’t<br />
stick with men that are exactly like you. One of the benefits of a mentor<br />
is that they can help expand your point of view.<br />
3. Write down how each mentor could help you grow as a man. Think<br />
of the traits each man has that you wish to learn. Do some research<br />
on them. Do they come from a similar background as you? Do they<br />
have unique experiences that can broaden your conception and understanding<br />
of success in a particular area of your life? Have they had any<br />
setbacks similar to yours? What is it exactly about this person that<br />
makes you want him to be your mentor? This will come in handy<br />
when you finally get around to asking.<br />
4. Figure out what you expect from the mentor relationship. Before<br />
you ask someone to be your mentor, you need to know what he should<br />
expect from the relationship. How often would you like to meet with<br />
him? Once a week? Once a month? How do you want the mentoring<br />
to take place? A discussion over lunch? Email? A monthly phone call?<br />
When you’re deciding this, take into account the men you’re asking<br />
to be your mentor and what will work for them. If you know one man<br />
is particularly busy, you wouldn’t want to ask that he meet with you<br />
once a week.<br />
5. Ask the first man on your list. After you’ve done all your prep work,<br />
it’s time to ask. Whether you call, email, or a write a letter to do the<br />
asking will depend on each person. Some older men might be “old<br />
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