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A FIRST HAND ALZHEIMER’S STORY<br />
LEARNING ABOUT MEDICATIONS THAT CAN<br />
MAKE A DIFFERENCE<br />
At the beginning, when Jerry began to lose his memory<br />
and his ability to think, he was terrified. He paced from his<br />
office to the kitchen and back again all day long. No matter<br />
how I tried, I could not comfort him. A nurse friend told me<br />
about a drug that would help this challenge. I got some of<br />
that med for him, and within days he was peaceful, joyful,<br />
and just plain okay. It was a miracle! That medication<br />
changed everything. It made it possible for me to care for<br />
him much longer in our home.<br />
I LOVED HIM TILL THE END<br />
By Renée Mollan-Masters<br />
One day I was driving home from town when I got so angry, I had to pull my<br />
car over to the side of the road because I couldn’t see straight. I was furious<br />
at my sick husband because I felt I had not signed up for what I was about to<br />
face. I felt like he was putting me in a position that was completely<br />
unreasonable and unfair. About three days later, I had another realization<br />
that changed everything. I remembered that my husband was my best friend,<br />
and that he had always stood by me no matter what, and in that moment, I<br />
decided that I just couldn’t abandon him in his darkest hour. And I knew he<br />
would have done the same for me.<br />
The moment I just described was three years into a ten-year journey with my<br />
husband, who had vascular dementia which is very similar to Alzheimer’s. I<br />
survived that experience, and I hope that what I share will inspire you and<br />
make your journey easier.<br />
WHO IS THE BEST CAREGIVER FOR YOUR LOVED ONE?<br />
I met a caregiver, towards the end of the time I cared of my husband, who<br />
told me something I should have learned in the beginning years. This<br />
caregiver told me that caring for a patient with any kind of dementia is not a<br />
job for one person. It takes many people to care for someone in this<br />
condition. I concur. As a wife wanting to be a good wife and friend, I took<br />
care of Jerry by myself much longer than I should have. Everyone has to find<br />
their own timing. When you place a loved one in a beautiful place that honors<br />
them, you are giving them a better life then you can give them on your own.<br />
It’s difficult to hear this, I know, but it’s important. You may not be your<br />
husband’s or wife’s best caregiver.<br />
Early on in our journey, I heard a statistic that most caregivers die before the<br />
person they are caring for dies. Why? Because the stress is tremendous. I<br />
made a commitment to myself that that wasn’t going to happen to me. So I<br />
looked for ways to support myself. Every morning I got up before my<br />
husband Jerry, and I spent no less than an hour with spirit. I wrote in my<br />
journal, I meditated, I listened to spirit and it fed me for the day. I also ended<br />
each day with spirit and I am convinced that this one thing made all the<br />
difference.<br />
As Jerry’s memory deteriorated, he began to perseverate.<br />
He would ask the same question again and again and<br />
again and would not remember the answer I had just given<br />
him. For example, in the morning he would greet me with,<br />
“What are we going to do today?” I would answer him and<br />
then a few seconds later he would ask again. I think this<br />
would have driven even a saint crazy. I learned to redirect<br />
him. I would give him something to eat, or I would put on a<br />
TV show that I knew he would enjoy. Sometimes I would fix<br />
him a cup of coffee and we would sit outside looking on our<br />
deck overlooking our forest. It didn’t really matter what I<br />
did. I just had to redirect his mind and he would stop.<br />
CAREGIVERS NEED BREAKS AND NURTURING<br />
TOO<br />
I took several trips without Jerry in order to give myself a<br />
break. I always left him with someone, which he resisted<br />
completely when I was around, but kindly accepted when I<br />
was not there. I did what I had to do to keep my husband<br />
safe, despite his protests.<br />
Don’t be surprised if your family members don’t understand<br />
what you are going through. They just can’t. They are not<br />
being insensitive, but unless you are in this experience or<br />
have had this experience, you can’t understand what it is<br />
really like. To lose the love of your life, inch-by-inch, is<br />
heart-wrenching.<br />
Towards the end, Jerry got Sundowners. I would describe<br />
Sundowners as hell. It begins at sundown and it makes the<br />
person act completely crazy. He would come into our<br />
bedroom at 3:00 a.m. in the morning and turn on the light<br />
and yell at me and ask why I was still in bed. I had to put a<br />
child gate at the foot of the stairs of our two-story home so<br />
that I could get some sleep. He would stand down below<br />
and yell up to me. If I ignored him, he would leave. He<br />
would take all the pots and pans out of every cupboard in<br />
the kitchen. He would tear his bed apart. He would move<br />
our furniture and plants around wildly and it usually took an<br />
hour each morning to get our house back in order.<br />
Fortunately, today there is a drug available that helps get<br />
rid of Sundowners.<br />
MAKING THE TRANSITION TO A FOSTER HOME<br />
Things had to get pretty bad for me before I would consider<br />
placing my husband in a home. One night he tried to throw<br />
me out of the house because he thought I was a burglar.<br />
He was going to the bathroom anywhere and everywhere.<br />
And one night I said to myself ‘this is not a way to live life.<br />
’<br />
I found a wonderful foster home that was like a man cave<br />
for my husband. The man running the home was an angel.<br />
I felt like I had died and gone to heaven finding such a<br />
wonderful place for Jerry. It was the best of everything.
BLESSINGS TO ALL THE CAREGIVERS AND<br />
ALL THOSE SUFFERING FROM ALZHEIMER'S.<br />
PEACE WITHIN<br />
Some of you may think that my experience of taking care of Jerry<br />
was horrible. It was difficult, but that challenge grew me. It forced<br />
me to find my peace within. It also forced me to ask for help, and I<br />
learned that help is always there when I ask for it.<br />
About six weeks before he passed away, I was sitting visiting with<br />
Jerry in his man cave bedroom, and I asked him if he loved me. He<br />
turned and looked at me and smiled and said, “I love you. And it<br />
isn’t even hard to do.” I will cherish this comment for the rest of my<br />
life. I know that love is greater than pain, and I feel honored to have<br />
taken this journey with the man I will love forever.<br />
MAKING THE TRANSITION TO A FOSTER HOME<br />
CONTINUED<br />
I visited Jerry every day for the first month and then less often later.<br />
The last time I took him out to a movie, he had forgotten how to sit. I<br />
almost didn’t get him in the seat in the theatre, and when we went<br />
back to the car he didn’t know how to get into the car. Fortunately, a<br />
wonderful couple came over to help me and the man picked Jerry up<br />
and put him in the car. I know that spirit was watching over us.<br />
Jerry with his granddaughter<br />
LIFE AFTER DEATH<br />
Jerry died peacefully nine months after I placed him in the man cave. I<br />
was happy for him when he passed. I was so glad he was out of that<br />
sickly mind and body. After he died, I decided that I was not going to<br />
sit around and wait for death. I had too much life left and I was going<br />
to live it fully.For inspiration, I took a Bene Brown class and she asked<br />
the question that if we died tomorrow what would we feel badly about<br />
that we had not done in our lifetimes. I knew what it was immediately.<br />
I knew that I wanted to write and produce films that inspired greatness<br />
in people. So I began writing a story called,<br />
“Peace Train, A Love Story.”<br />
The book has now been published internationally and a film is in the<br />
process of being produced. It is a story of old for all ages. Remember<br />
how we used to go to films and we would come out singing and<br />
dancing when it was over? Well this story will do just that for you. It<br />
was written to inspire, to leave you uplifted and hopeful. I hope you<br />
will read it and let me know if I was successful.<br />
Jerry was just starting to lose his memory<br />
AUTHOR’S NOTES:<br />
Renée Mollan-Masters was married to her husband Jerry for 30<br />
years. Jerry was sick for over one-third of their marriage. Renée is<br />
the best-selling author of the non-fiction book, “You Are Smarter<br />
Than You Think.” She has authored a new book, “Peace Train, A<br />
Love Story” and has written the movie, Peace Train. Renée will<br />
produce and co-direct her film in the coming year.<br />
www.PeaceTrainMovie.com. You can find out more about<br />
Author/Producer/Director Renée Mollan-Masters on social media<br />
@PeaceTrainMovie or contact her via email at: yastyt@mind.net.<br />
This was Jerry’s favorite place to sit<br />
Renee Today
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By Nellie Hathorn Owner of Acciptier Marketing & Social Media Company<br />
SOURCE: Lifetime<br />
Have you received random friend requests on<br />
Facebook from someone you don't recognize<br />
but their picture appears to look relatively<br />
harmless, possibly an attractive photo. You<br />
reach back into your brain trying to remember<br />
their name or place their face. Or have you<br />
received a duplicate friend request from a<br />
friend and you think to yourself, "Wait a<br />
minute, I'm already friends with them." Well,<br />
Facebook is plagued with this problem right<br />
now so here is what could be happening and a<br />
few things to do to protect your online<br />
privacy.<br />
You may receive a fake Facebook friend<br />
request for any number of reasons — some<br />
harmless, some malicious. The different types<br />
of people who send fake or malicious friend<br />
requests include: "Scammers" who might try<br />
accessing your friend list or your news feed. It<br />
could be an ex-spouse, ex-boyfriend,<br />
ex-girlfriend, or current spouse,... you get the<br />
idea. They could be testing your fidelity or<br />
checking to see if you respond to an attractive<br />
post. It could be a "catfisher." Someone<br />
posing behind an attractive profile looking for<br />
a love or friend connection. Facebookers<br />
beware.<br />
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Did you receive a second request<br />
from someone you are already<br />
friends with? First thing, double check<br />
that you are indeed friends already. If<br />
so, then you know this second request<br />
is a fake profile. Now you can respond<br />
to the friend request. You can report<br />
the profile as a fake account. Click the<br />
3 little dots next to "message" on their<br />
profile page then click "Give feedback<br />
or report this profile." You can click<br />
"Fake Profile" or 'Pretending to be<br />
someone else." Whichever one<br />
coincides.<br />
Do you know the requester or have<br />
any friends in common? If your<br />
answer is "no," you have your first<br />
clue. If you can't recall meeting the<br />
person in real life or meeting through<br />
any mutual friends, then the friend<br />
request may have been sent to you<br />
under false pretenses. Check the<br />
person's friends list if it's viewable and<br />
click the mutual list to see if there is<br />
anyone you both know. If not, more<br />
than likely it's a scammer.
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Is the friend request from an attractive<br />
person of the opposite sex that you<br />
don't know? A guy who gets a random<br />
friend request from a beautiful woman he<br />
doesn't know should suspect a ruse. The<br />
same holds true for the ladies. A friend<br />
request with a picture of an attractive<br />
person posing provocatively is the bait<br />
often used by people who create fake<br />
friend requests. Many times I have seen<br />
men posing with a child, to look like<br />
single parent. They will have a child in a<br />
few of the minimal pictures that they<br />
post. This is to make them appear non<br />
threatening. Don't fall for this.<br />
Does the request come from a person<br />
with a limited Facebook<br />
history? Check out their Facebook<br />
timeline and history. If the person joined<br />
Facebook just a short time ago, this is<br />
another clue that the friend request is<br />
bogus. Most legitimate Facebook users<br />
have a long history on their timeline<br />
dating back several years. Fake profiles<br />
are often created hastily, and most<br />
profiles indicate when the person joined<br />
Facebook. If the requesters Facebook<br />
account and timeline were created<br />
recently, then the person is most likely<br />
trying to scam you.<br />
Does the person have an unusually<br />
small or large number of friends and<br />
are they all the same sex? Fictitious<br />
profiles may have an extremely small or<br />
impossibly large number of friends on<br />
their friends list. The reason? They have<br />
likely spent little effort setting up the<br />
fake profile, or they spammed a ton of<br />
friend requests out and received a ton of<br />
responses. Another clue is the sex of<br />
those on their friends list. Depending on<br />
who the person behind the fake profile is<br />
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targeting, you will likely see friends<br />
that are predominantly of the opposite<br />
sex of the requester since that is likely<br />
who the person is targeting with the<br />
fake friend requests. If the request is<br />
from a lady targeting men, expect<br />
almost all men in the friends list,<br />
instead of a mix of men and women<br />
like you would expect from a real<br />
person. Sometimes these scammers are<br />
targeting the opposite for online<br />
relationships that may lead to<br />
scamming for money.<br />
Is there little personal content on<br />
their timeline? You likely won't see a<br />
lot of day-to-day activity on a fake<br />
profile because of the effort required<br />
to generate "real" content. You may<br />
see some pictures, perhaps some links,<br />
but you probably won't see a lot of<br />
location check-ins or status updates.<br />
This may or may not be true for<br />
scammers of the catfishing type, as<br />
they may spend a lot of time and effort<br />
making their online persona seem as<br />
real as possible.<br />
Next time you receive a random friend<br />
request, ask yourself these questions<br />
and use your answers to determine<br />
whether you have just spotted a fake<br />
friend request. Avoid the pitfalls, so<br />
when in doubt, the best action is not to<br />
accept the request.<br />
1. Perform a small privacy setting checkup.<br />
Start by setting the privacy of your friend list<br />
to either 'Private" or "Friends Only." Another<br />
recommended setting is also under Facebook<br />
privacy settings. Under "Who can send you<br />
friend requests?" set it "Friend of friends."<br />
This should help alleviate random requests.<br />
While under your privacy settings, I also<br />
recommend that you change your other<br />
settings to either "Only me," "Friends," or<br />
'Friends of friends." I don't recommend<br />
Public. This privacy setting tune up should<br />
help eliminate a lot of unwanted requests.
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