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But are your fears justifiable? Do you think the<br />
cause of your anxiety or fear is justified? Or are<br />
those worries just products of over-thinking?<br />
Turn those negative what-ifs into positive what-ifs<br />
If you cannot help but ask yourself certain what-ifs,<br />
try to convert them to positive questions.<br />
• What if I get on stage, deliver my speech well <strong>and</strong><br />
inspire so many people?<br />
• What if I travel <strong>and</strong> learn a new culture?<br />
• What if I go on a date <strong>and</strong> be asked for the next one?<br />
programmed for that. Your body will also cooperate so<br />
that you can get there.<br />
• What if I get rich…?<br />
• What if I succeed…?<br />
• What if I reach my goal…?<br />
Think of those possibilities. Form them in your mind. Let<br />
the what ifs help you visualise <strong>and</strong> achieve your dreams. In<br />
short, try to visualise the best case (not the worst) for every<br />
situation.<br />
Of course, sometimes, things can go south. But that’s<br />
just a probability, not the 100% possibility.<br />
Bring it on <strong>and</strong> say “So what!”<br />
• What if I start a business <strong>and</strong> it does exceptionally<br />
well?<br />
• What if I accept this offer, improve my skills <strong>and</strong><br />
later be promoted?<br />
The next time a negative ‘what-ifs’ comes to mind, you<br />
can also use another technique – <strong>and</strong> that is to use the<br />
brave phrase – “so what!”<br />
“So what if that bad scenario really showed up?”<br />
So when negative what-ifs enter your mind, try<br />
to reverse them <strong>and</strong> think of positive outcomes<br />
instead of the other way around.<br />
Your brain is so brilliant that it can create just the most<br />
horrible picture. When it does, you can also st<strong>and</strong> up,<br />
face it with your chin up <strong>and</strong> say “so what?”<br />
After all, using these what-ifs to think positive might<br />
even serve as a great motivator to reach your goals <strong>and</strong><br />
become successful, as they can help you visualise the<br />
great things you want coming your way.<br />
It is like conditioning <strong>and</strong> feeding your mind with what<br />
you want to achieve – <strong>and</strong> eventually, your brain will be<br />
And then, think of a solution even if the problem<br />
has not surfaced yet.<br />
After all, this proactive attitude of making a contingency<br />
plan beforeh<strong>and</strong> can help you face the situation because<br />
you are prepared with a conditioned mind. And you’re<br />
NOT AFRAID.<br />
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