GRAND Fall 2021
Victoria Vancouver Island Grandparenting Magazine Fall 2021, Profile: Linda Rogers, poet, novelist, essayist and kid-at-heart; On-the Job Training: Learning from our grandchildren; 5 Photo Sharing Apps;Grandparent Giving: Financial help that makes a difference
Victoria Vancouver Island Grandparenting Magazine Fall 2021,
Profile: Linda Rogers, poet, novelist, essayist and kid-at-heart; On-the Job Training: Learning from our grandchildren; 5 Photo Sharing Apps;Grandparent Giving: Financial help that makes a difference
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am liable to jump in the air and drown<br />
them in praise and accessories at the<br />
slightest provocation. Sage recently<br />
told me he has enough art supplies for<br />
a lifetime. Okay I get it, no more pastels.<br />
I LOVE pastels, the beautiful colours.<br />
Creative selves are happy selves.<br />
I love to see kids overcome by joy, but<br />
sometimes I have to listen and hold<br />
back. They get to choose, not me.<br />
A while back, I was with Kwagiulth<br />
artist Billy Cook and his kids while Billy<br />
finished a silver belt buckle for my<br />
husband. In his culture, kids learn by<br />
watching. I jumped in and ran around<br />
the studio he shared with his brother<br />
Rande, stealing Rande’s coloured pencils<br />
and paper. “They want to draw!”<br />
I said. Of course they did. Billy also<br />
knew they needed to watch and learn<br />
patience. William, who cried that day<br />
because he wanted a belt buckle, was<br />
told he would get a buckle when he<br />
made it himself. Now that is cultural<br />
teaching. William is becoming a beautiful<br />
artist and his dad will teach him<br />
to engrave when he is ready and has<br />
promised I can gift him the silver. I<br />
cannot wait!<br />
Grandparenting is not only your<br />
own family but all the families. I love<br />
it when grown-ups I have known all<br />
their lives still call me “Gramalinda”<br />
although one granddaughter, who will<br />
remain nameless, threatened to put<br />
her best friend’s cheeks in the toaster<br />
for calling me that. They remain best<br />
friends and I stole her line for The Empress<br />
Letters.<br />
Q. What are some of your favourite<br />
things to do and places to go with<br />
your grandchildren?<br />
That is the hardest question to<br />
answer because, at this time (during<br />
the pandemic), the only possible trips<br />
are in our heads…no high tea at Venus<br />
Sophia (sadly shut), no mucking<br />
with germy clay or cooking together,<br />
and certainly no concerts, theatre<br />
or galleries, no promised excursion<br />
to London or elsewhere for the two<br />
youngest whose turn it is to choose a<br />
destination. I like to go any place with<br />
my grandchildren from film to farm,<br />
especially the spit on the Armour farm<br />
grandmag.ca<br />
at Saltspring Island where extended<br />
family also waits for this to be over. At<br />
last.<br />
We have had birthday parades, messenger<br />
and skype this year, all sadly<br />
lacking. I paint cards and order gifts<br />
online, catching hell for air transport<br />
pollution from one zealot. July was a<br />
blessed window before Delta dawn<br />
(and yes we are writing a song about<br />
that) and we went to Butterfly World<br />
and Sea Cider Winery via Tally Ho<br />
Tours to celebrate Rick and Sophie’s<br />
birthdays. Now we are knuckling<br />
down again after a few wonderful<br />
hugs for a brutal winter.<br />
This year I hope to publish a book<br />
called Mother, the Verb, Swan Sister<br />
Treasures, which is a collection of<br />
art, writing, photography, music and<br />
filmmaking by activist women and<br />
allies. My granddaughter, Sophie Rogers<br />
Dhaul’s art is on the cover. Youth<br />
contributors include Isla Cook and<br />
Olive Rogers. We are all mothers of<br />
invention and I hope the book will be<br />
a celebration of renewed awareness<br />
of the value in matriarchy, balanced<br />
culture, the old leading the young and<br />
the young leading the old, that came<br />
out of a very dark time in our shared<br />
history.<br />
Q. What do you wish for your grandchildren?<br />
I wish them lives that are as gloriously<br />
fulfilling as the one I have had,<br />
where, as a feminist, I fought for<br />
rights they enjoy and, as a human,<br />
tried to live the beautitudes. I wish<br />
them luck in finding partners who<br />
love them and work that fulfills them.<br />
I hope they are able to give and receive<br />
with grace. I hope that they are in the<br />
majority of humans who respect other<br />
cultures and life forms and strive to<br />
protect the planet from greed.<br />
Q. What would you like your grandchildren<br />
to remember most about<br />
you?<br />
I would like them to remember that,<br />
although I was a person who talked to<br />
everyone and dressed the way I felt,<br />
sometimes to comic extremes, my<br />
intentions were good. I don’t mind if<br />
they have a retrospective laugh about<br />
everything but the day I risked my life<br />
and possibly his job wearing a unicorn<br />
mask into Capital Savings to greet my<br />
granddaughter’s then boyfriend, Sumeet.<br />
Hey, I wasn’t carrying. I would<br />
like them to remember my bread and<br />
my lettuce wrap, my frittata and curries,<br />
my chutney and trifle, but not the<br />
year I made Brussels sprout salad at<br />
Christmas.<br />
Q. Do you have any wise words or stories<br />
to share with other grandparents<br />
to help them in their role raising their<br />
grandchildren?<br />
I have the same advice I give about<br />
life in general. Be authentic. Kids and<br />
cats know the difference. Share your<br />
joy and be honest about your sorrows.<br />
Give generously. It is true there is<br />
more joy and giving, but also remember<br />
to receive with gratitude. They<br />
are treasures. Show them the ways<br />
in which expectation is the enemy of<br />
joyful creativity. The act of creation is<br />
its own reward. Show don’t tell. They<br />
learn by mimicry. Love them and then<br />
love them some more. There is never<br />
too much. Don’t be afraid to phone an<br />
adult child and leave embarrassing<br />
singing messages their friends might<br />
hear on their answering machines, “I<br />
just called to say I love you,” because<br />
those old tapes are your most valuable<br />
legacy. IMHO.<br />
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