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<strong>February</strong>, March, April <strong>2022</strong> The <strong>Bulletin</strong> 21<br />
Drink Less, Live More<br />
Rachel Pritz, RN, MSN<br />
Certified Coach, Certified Enneagram Coach<br />
I was driving to my job as a<br />
nurse manager one day and I<br />
started day dreaming. What if<br />
I got into a car accident, just<br />
a small one of course, but<br />
one that would require other<br />
people to take care of me for a<br />
change. I pulled into work and<br />
woke up from my day dream<br />
in horror. This wasn’t normal<br />
and how did I even get to this<br />
place in life anyway? I was<br />
drinking a bottle of wine most<br />
nights to “get through life”<br />
and this had become problematic. As I got unstuck<br />
from over-drinking, I started talking to about it on<br />
stages and with the teams I coached. At first, it was<br />
vulnerable and scary. Then, people started coming to<br />
me and messaging me after saying “me too.” While<br />
there is comfort in knowing you aren’t alone, it was<br />
also a little frightening to know how many of us in<br />
healthcare were out there. It’s a lot and more than I’d<br />
ever imagined.<br />
What drew you to this read?<br />
I am lucky to have a very close friend that is also<br />
a practicing clinical psychologist. She recently shared<br />
insights and takeaways from the authors on her practice<br />
blog and mentioned them to me the last time she came to<br />
visit. I knew right away it was something I wanted to better<br />
understand and possibly share with nurses.<br />
This book is available on Audible which is a win for me<br />
so that I can multitask. I had a road trip planned and it<br />
was the perfect length to accompany me on my ride. You<br />
know it is going to be good if Brene Brown calls it a “total<br />
game changer.”<br />
The audio version comes with a printable PDF for<br />
working through stressful decisions (cost/benefit analysis)<br />
and additional supportive worksheets. I liked the idea<br />
of exercises in addition to the content so that I could<br />
hopefully apply the methodology to my own life events.<br />
What have you learned from this author?<br />
One of my key takeaways, early in my listening was that<br />
we are all on a journey. Wellness is not an end destination<br />
but is an ongoing process that requires attention and<br />
purposeful action. The authors focus on how to respond,<br />
moving fluidly, through life and the stress response cycle.<br />
Why, if so, do you recommend this book to other nurses?<br />
I recommend this book to nurses, really to any female.<br />
I do not recommend the book to readers that identify as<br />
male as it is written specifically for females, or individuals<br />
that identify as female. I appreciate that the authors clearly<br />
state this in the beginning. I think many of the actions<br />
and processes can be applied to males, however Nagoski<br />
and Nagoski take into consideration that male brains (or<br />
individuals that identify as) can function differently than<br />
females, hence some of these items may not come into<br />
play or be as useful.<br />
A favorite section includes the authors referring to<br />
our own “mad woman in the attic”, the importance of<br />
connecting with your inner voice, and how to build the<br />
relationship in our favor. If you have an inner voice that<br />
consumes you, this may be just the book for you.<br />
I recommend this book as we are all spread thin and<br />
overwhelmed. Stress and stressors are compounding and<br />
occurring non-stop, even more so today that last year and<br />
the year before. Nagoski and Nagoski guide the reader to<br />
move fluidly through stress and stressful circumstances<br />
by preventing us from being stuck in a negative state. We<br />
can process suffering if we know why we are responding<br />
in this way. Meaning is good for us. “People with greater<br />
sense of meaning and purpose in life experience better<br />
health and are more likely to access preventive health<br />
care services to protect that health… A meta-analysis of<br />
the relationship between purpose in life and health found<br />
It makes sense. You have a hard day, or night, at<br />
work and come home exhausted. You just want to<br />
turn off your brain and relax. A global pandemic and<br />
all that has come with it both professionally and<br />
personally, hasn’t made this easier. Not only do you<br />
have all the to-do’s and the emotional toll of being a<br />
healthcare professional, but you also have so many<br />
responsibilities outside of work. Kids, aging parents,<br />
family drama, relationship struggles, etc. We’ve<br />
normalized drinking as a way to cope with all the<br />
stressors that are thrown our way. But, what if you got<br />
curious about the deeper why behind the drinking?<br />
Is this behavior working for you or is it causing you<br />
harm? What are the emotions and thoughts behind the<br />
drinking?<br />
Healthcare professionals everywhere have been<br />
told to practice more self-care as the answer to their<br />
burnout and exhaustion. I remember being told this<br />
too. But what if society sold us a bag of lies about<br />
what self-care really is? It’s so much deeper than<br />
bubble baths and chardonnay. In fact, when I was<br />
swimming in chardonnay that was the exact opposite<br />
of self-care. Here are some of the strategies I used to<br />
help dig me out of the pit of despair. I call it radical<br />
self care. Nothing radical about it, but it does take<br />
time and daily intention. If you truly want to get to the<br />
ISNA’s Bookshelf<br />
Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle<br />
by Emily Nagoski, PhD and Amelia Nagoski, DMA<br />
that greater sense of purpose is<br />
associated with 17% lower risk<br />
of all-cause mortality.” (Nagoski<br />
& Nagoski, 2019, Chapter 3,<br />
08:19).<br />
This book is truthful, easy to<br />
read/listen to, and helpful as we<br />
process our current environment<br />
and everyday stress. The book<br />
barely mentions happiness, but<br />
realistically focuses on how to<br />
cultivate joy by working through<br />
your stress, because we all have<br />
it. Most importantly we all have<br />
the power to persevere.<br />
How will you apply what you have learned?<br />
• Nagoski and Nagoski have helped me put labels on<br />
and define stress. They have also shed light on how to<br />
separate stressors from my response to stress. This is<br />
foundational material in monitoring my stress cycles.<br />
• Thinking through the concept of stressors and<br />
response to stress as components of a cycle will<br />
help remind me to close the gap and to work through<br />
either or both cause and the outcome of stressors in<br />
which are in and out of my control.<br />
• A reminder to not be hard on myself while on this<br />
journey and to not use obtaining wellness as a check<br />
off or end game.<br />
• This was a great reminder that I am in control of how<br />
I let stress affect me. Stress is inevitable but how I<br />
manage it is in my control.<br />
• The authors reminded me that adversity or<br />
overcoming difficulties and stressful circumstances<br />
can help me define my own meaning in life, moving<br />
me through coping onto thriving. Post traumatic<br />
growth builds strength and supports handling<br />
additional difficulties that will come my way if I am<br />
completing my stress cycles.<br />
• We make our own meaning to life, which requires<br />
focus and intention. It’s what sustains us. Just like<br />
wellness, it is an ongoing journey.<br />
What is your next book or reading material in your queue?<br />
I’d like to hear or read more from Kristin Neff about<br />
Compassion. She has a Ted Talk that gets referenced<br />
frequently and authored two books, Self-Compassion: The<br />
Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself, and Fierce Self-<br />
Compassion. I’ve also recently started Moral Resilience,<br />
written by Cynda Hylton Rushton, which I am enjoying and<br />
moving through quickly.<br />
Interested in sharing a recent book, podcast, article, or<br />
show? Email me katie@indiananurses.org<br />
root cause of any harmful numbing behavior, here are<br />
some ways to do it:<br />
• Therapy/Coaches<br />
• Podcasts/Audiobooks<br />
• Self-awareness work (I used the Enneagram)<br />
• Exercise<br />
• Healthy eating<br />
• Spirituality<br />
• Meditation (I use a guided version)<br />
• Deep connections with other humans<br />
• Belonging, not just fitting in<br />
• Healthy boundaries<br />
• Understanding thoughts and emotions and making<br />
space to process them<br />
• Asking for (and at times hiring) help<br />
Ultimately, I decided to stop blaming everyone else<br />
around me and to take accountability for the life I’d<br />
created. No one was stopping me from doing all of the<br />
above, but me. Not my work, my boss, my partner, my<br />
kids, my parents. No one else was responsible but me.<br />
My favorite definition of self-care is creating a life you<br />
don’t have to regularly escape from. Think about what you<br />
are escaping and where you might need help. This is a<br />
personal journey and my guidance might not match what<br />
you need. But the good news here is you already know<br />
what you need if you can just quiet the noise around you.<br />
Here’s what I’ve learned after going from drinking a<br />
bottle of wine per night, to only drinking when I really<br />
want to, which is rare.<br />
• I sleep better - yes, alcohol can get you to sleep,<br />
but you don’t get quality sleep.<br />
• I have much less anxiety. Hangxiety is a real (and<br />
chemical thing).<br />
• My mood is better.<br />
• Alcohol numbed the more negatively perceived<br />
emotions. But it also numbed all the good stuff.<br />
• Alcohol added no value in my life.<br />
• I’ve lost weight. Calories aren’t the only biological<br />
reason for this.<br />
• Shaming yourself doesn’t work. Self-love does.<br />
I thought my journey out of over-drinking would<br />
only impact my drinking. Turns out, this healing and<br />
empowering journey fixed a whole lot of problems in<br />
my life. When we get to the root cause, that’s when the<br />
magic happens.<br />
Rachel Pritz, RN, MSN<br />
www.rachelpritz.com<br />
Instagram: @indyenneagram<br />
Facebook: Rachel Pritz Life Coaching<br />
LinkedIn: Rachel Pritz<br />
Disclaimer: If you believe you are an addict or<br />
alcoholic I encourage you to seek help.