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Loneliness<br />
by Sue Monckton-Rickett<br />
This was the theme of Mental<br />
Health Awareness Week (9th to<br />
15th May) this year.<br />
I wonder what images the word<br />
‘loneliness’ conjures up in your<br />
mind? The elderly or housebound<br />
person, perhaps, sitting at the<br />
window, or the homeless person<br />
huddled in a doorway? We often<br />
equate loneliness with aloneness,<br />
but they are not necessarily the<br />
same thing. Some people may<br />
choose to be alone and live happily<br />
without much contact with other<br />
people, while others may find this<br />
a desperately lonely experience.<br />
We probably all acknowledge the<br />
truth of the statement ‘you can<br />
feel lonely in a crowd full of people,<br />
but quite peaceful and content<br />
when alone’, but when we think<br />
about loneliness we may still veer<br />
towards certain stereotypes. And<br />
stereotypes matter because they<br />
create a stigma about loneliness<br />
and they also reduce our ability<br />
to be aware of the potential for<br />
loneliness.<br />
SO WHAT IS LONELINESS?<br />
Loneliness has been described<br />
as ‘the feeling we get when our<br />
need for rewarding social contact<br />
and relationships is not met’ (1).<br />
It is that sense of an unmet need<br />
for meaningful relationships that<br />
is vital and therefore how many<br />
people you know or live or meet<br />
with is actually quite irrelevant.<br />
We may be in many relationships,<br />
but still feel lonely because there<br />
is a mismatch between the<br />
relationships we need and the<br />
ones we are in.<br />
Loneliness and social isolation<br />
are often talked about in the<br />
same context but they are not<br />
the same thing, nor does one<br />
(i.e. social isolation) necessarily<br />
lead to the other (i.e. loneliness).<br />
Social isolation is an objective<br />
lack of social contacts, which<br />
can be measured by the number<br />
of relationships a person has.<br />
Someone who is socially isolated<br />
isn’t necessarily lonely, nor is a<br />
lonely person necessarily socially<br />
isolated.<br />
Loneliness is sometimes described<br />
in three ways:<br />
1. Emotional loneliness – the<br />
absence or loss of a significant<br />
other, such as a partner or close<br />
friend, with whom you have a<br />
meaningful relationship (2).<br />
2. Social loneliness – the lack of a<br />
wider social network that can<br />
provide a sense of belonging<br />
and community (2).<br />
3. Existential loneliness – a sense<br />
of feeling disconnected from<br />
others, and as though life is<br />
empty and lacks meaning (3).<br />
We can see how these may co-exist<br />
and can all have a very deep and<br />
significant impact.<br />
HOW COMMON IS LONELINESS?<br />
Measurements by the Office for<br />
Nations Statistics in 2016/2017<br />
showed that one in twenty (five per<br />
cent) of adults in the UK said they<br />
‘often or always’ felt lonely, with<br />
younger adults (sixteen to twentyfour<br />
years old) reporting feeling<br />
lonely more often than older<br />
people.<br />
The impact of social distancing and<br />
lockdowns during the pandemic<br />
meant that many more people<br />
faced social isolation and loneliness<br />
and the proportion of people who<br />
felt ‘often or always lonely’ rose<br />
to just over seven per cent of the<br />
adult population, in February 2021.<br />
Surveys by the Mental Health<br />
Foundation (post-pandemic)<br />
showed that there was a lag in<br />
the reduction of loneliness, but<br />
the levels are now back to those<br />
of pre-pandemic, still equating to<br />
approximately 2.5 million people in<br />
the UK.<br />
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