Island Parent Magazine Dec-Jan 2023
Vancouver Island’s Parenting Resource for 35 Years • Holiday Gift Guide • Simplifying Your Traditions • 2022 Family Favourites • Holiday Happenings • GRAND: A Special Feature for Grandparents
Vancouver Island’s Parenting Resource for 35 Years • Holiday Gift Guide • Simplifying Your Traditions • 2022 Family Favourites • Holiday Happenings • GRAND: A Special Feature for Grandparents
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Healthy Families, Happy Families<br />
Child, Youth<br />
& Family<br />
Public Health<br />
South <strong>Island</strong> Health Units<br />
Esquimalt 250-519-5311<br />
Gulf <strong>Island</strong>s 250-539-3099<br />
(toll-free number for office in Saanichton)<br />
Peninsula 250-544-2400<br />
Saanich 250-519-5100<br />
Saltspring <strong>Island</strong> 250-538-4880<br />
Sooke 250-519-3487<br />
Victoria 250-388-2200<br />
West Shore 250-519-3490<br />
Central <strong>Island</strong> Health Units<br />
Duncan 250-709-3050<br />
Ladysmith 250-755-3342<br />
Lake Cowichan 250-749-6878<br />
Nanaimo 250-755-3342<br />
Nanaimo 250-739-5845<br />
Princess Royal<br />
Parksville/Qualicum 250-947-8242<br />
Port Alberni 250-731-1315<br />
Tofino 250-725-4020<br />
North <strong>Island</strong> Health Units<br />
Campbell River 250-850-2110<br />
Courtenay 250-331-8520<br />
Kyuquot Health Ctr 250-332-5289<br />
‘Namgis Health Ctr 250-974-5522<br />
Port Hardy 250-902-6071<br />
islandhealth.ca/our-locations/<br />
health-unit-locations<br />
PARENTING<br />
Nobody’s Perfect<br />
And that’s okay<br />
wish I wasn’t so irritable at my kids<br />
I and could be more like how they ask<br />
of me.<br />
The fulfillment is astounding; motherhood<br />
is the purest state of living that I’ve<br />
ever experienced— but loving them is<br />
unconditional and it comes with many<br />
challenges.<br />
I can be patient and mindfully compassionate<br />
to a point— but I can also regretfully<br />
snap at my wits end.<br />
I see a lot of posts going around about<br />
early childhood trauma and how to<br />
speak, act and do better for our children.<br />
I agree that in an ideal world it’s true—<br />
we should continually rephrase, nurture<br />
and encourage *calmly* regardless of<br />
any behaviour.<br />
What I don’t agree with is this implied<br />
accusation that we are damaging our<br />
children if we don’t adhere consistently<br />
to this standard of new-age parenting.<br />
For abrupt frustration when we know<br />
the older ones know better and it feels<br />
like they’re testing us at a cellular level.<br />
I think we should apologize to them<br />
often, and after reflecting, manage those<br />
big feelings with compassion as best we<br />
can when they come up again<br />
I won’t apologize though, for being a<br />
human being in my evolution of parenting—it’s<br />
a damn hard Olympic sport.<br />
I think we need more real-life mothers<br />
sharing how hard this is all actually is<br />
with unapologetic solidarity and a side of<br />
forgot-to-gentle-parent.<br />
We need to agree that we all have different<br />
levels of tolerance on different days<br />
for the exact same behaviour.<br />
We need to know that when we are being<br />
tested, that it’s not a time to feel judgment,<br />
instead a time to feel seen.<br />
I think we must learn in hindsight and<br />
discern teachings from our children; to<br />
Changes with BC Medical Services Plan<br />
premiums mean that families eligible for partial<br />
payment of some medical services and access<br />
to some income-based programs now must<br />
apply for Supplementary Benefits through the<br />
Government of BC. Applications can be done<br />
online and take approximately 15 minutes.<br />
Families who previously qualified for MSP<br />
Premium Assistance should not need to re-apply<br />
if taxes are completed yearly. It is advised to<br />
confirm coverage before proceeding with<br />
treatment to avoid paying out of pocket.<br />
For more information, visit gov.bc.ca/gov/<br />
content/health/health-drug-coverage/msp/<br />
bc-residents/benefits/services-covered-bymsp/supplementary-benefits<br />
I think all we can do is try and aim for<br />
our best every day, but I refuse to feel<br />
shame:<br />
For my lack of patience when overstimulated.<br />
For my cyclically-imbalanced mood<br />
swings.<br />
For utilizing screen time for sanity.<br />
For the projection of my own childhood<br />
wounds that I still need time to<br />
heal.<br />
look at challenges as an opportunity to<br />
not repeat history, but also to see our<br />
own instabilities as indicators to find<br />
more support and seek self-care.<br />
We must know that we don’t always<br />
have to do everything right in order to be<br />
a good mom. We are, and we need to put<br />
ourselves first, too.<br />
I hope this message helps normalize<br />
any fear or sadness parents are going<br />
through in transitions, especially when<br />
other younger siblings are involved.<br />
24 <strong>Island</strong> <strong>Parent</strong> <strong>Magazine</strong> <strong>Island</strong><strong>Parent</strong>.ca