V21 N20

The Answer Lady invites inquiries from
gentle readers on all manner of relationship
quandaries, matters of the
heart and ethics. If you’d like to send
a query, write to info@exitzero.us. Or,
simply sit back, enjoy a cup of coffee and contemplate
the wisdom herein.
Dear Answer Lady
I work out at my local gym about four days
a week, so I am well aware of gym etiquette. A
six-foot, barrel-chested man came and asked
me if he could use the machine I was using. I
was halfway through my routine and told him
I would be done soon. He proceeded to pace
in front of me in a very intimidating manner.
I am a woman and just over five-feet tall. He
would’ve never approached a man like that.
I stood firm and finished but was furious and
now regret not confronting him. What do you
think? — Standing Firm
Dear Standing
You did the right thing. If it happens again,
turn him into the manager. Nothing can be
gained by facing off with a bully. Let the higher
The Answer Lady
Wise answers to perplexing questions
ups deal with that. Pat yourself on the back for
politely standing your ground. His behavior
was odious and unacceptable. Take yourself
to the Oceanview Restaurant as your reward
for good behavior. Sit by the window while
enjoying your ginormous Greek Salad and
enjoy the view. It’s a moment of Zen.
Dear Answer Lady
My best friend and I were at Harpoon’s by
the Bay last Sunday where she met a guy that
she really liked. I was so happy for her — she’s
coming off a nasty breakup. They agreed to
meet back at Harpoon’s the next night and
all’s well, except — the minute she went to
the bathroom, he asked for my number. I was
afraid to say anything. They met the next
night and are having dinner this weekend. She
has a history of picking the wrong men, but I’m
worried if I say anything she’ll turn on me. By
the way, she has a good job and makes a ton of
money. You see where I think this is going. —
Concerned
Dear Concerned
You can’t always save people from
themselves, but you can be there to pick up
the pieces. The time to tell her about the phone
number was at the moment it was happening,
but it may not have mattered. You are a good
friend, but often people who are successful
in their work life are not so good in personal
relations. Do yourself a favor and while your
friend is otherwise occupied, find another
friend to go to Harpoon’s with so you can enjoy
the sunset without worry.
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