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Two groups of volunteers were asked to participate<br />

in an American research project in which<br />

the participants attended a series of lectures.<br />

The purpose of the project was to examine the<br />

effects of the crossed-arm position on retention<br />

of information and attitude toward the lecturer.<br />

The first group was instructed to sit in a casual,<br />

relaxed position, with their arms and legs in an<br />

Blocking out information<br />

Chapter 8: Arming Yourself<br />

open position. The second group was told to<br />

fold their arms tightly across their chests during<br />

the lectures. The study showed that the group<br />

with the folded arms had a more negative view<br />

of both the lectures and the lecturer and<br />

retained 38 per cent less information than the<br />

group that sat with their arms and legs<br />

uncrossed.<br />

Most people adopt the arms-crossed position when they disagree with what’s<br />

going on around them, as illustrated during a recent public meeting in our village.<br />

A landowner applied to the local council to turn his farm into a golf<br />

course. The villagers were divided in opinion over this change of land use<br />

and a public hearing was held. Those in favour of the change sat on one side<br />

of the room while those against the proposal sat on the other. At the start of<br />

the meeting many of those who opposed the plan sat with their arms crossed<br />

over their chests. As the supporters spoke in favour of the proposal, more<br />

and more of the opponents crossed their arms. When the time came for those<br />

who opposed the plan to speak, the supporters crossed their arms. As the<br />

meeting progressed and people became more adamant and agitated, almost<br />

the entire gathering sat with their arms tightly folded across their chests. No<br />

constructive discussions took place at that meeting and the individuals present<br />

left feeling disgruntled.<br />

An attitude can lead to a gesture or posture that reflects the emotion. As long<br />

as you maintain that pose the attitude remains. Therefore, to get someone to<br />

change from a crossed-arm position, give him something to do or hold. They<br />

he has to unlock his arms and lean towards you. This breaks his negative<br />

posture and creates a more open body position, which in turn leads to a<br />

more open attitude.<br />

Gripped crossed arms<br />

A sure sign of restrained anxiety and apprehension is when the arms are<br />

folded across the chest and the hands are tightly gripping the upper arms.<br />

The person appears to be fortifying himself against adversity and holding on<br />

for dear life. People waiting in the doctor’s or dentist’s reception room can<br />

often be seen in this position, as can inexperienced air travellers who adopt<br />

the posture as the plane takes off and lands, indicating that they are in need<br />

of comfort or reassurance.<br />

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