Anthony Robbins AWAKEN THE GIANT... - Lemma Coaching

Disneyland (something she knew would fulfill her value of accomplishment if she succeeded).
Incredibly, she beat out 700 other girls to win a part in the fabled amusement park's Electric Light
Parade. Initially, Jolie was ecstatic. We, along with her friends, were all so delighted and proud of her,
and we would frequently drive up on weekends to see her perform. Her schedule, however, was
extremely taxing. Jolie had to perform every weeknight as well as weekends, and her school term
wasn't over for the summer yet. So she had to drive from San Diego to Orange County every evening
in rush-hour traffic, rehearse and perform for several hours, then drive back home in the wee hours of
the night so she could get up again early the next morning in time for school. As you can imagine, the
daily commute and long hours soon turned the experience into a grueling 120 ordeal 121 , not to mention
the extremely heavy costume she had to wear which hurt her back.
Even worse, however, from Jolie's perspective, was the fact that her demanding schedule cut
drastically into her personal life and prevented her from spending any time with our family and her
friends. I began to notice her wandering about in a series of very unresourceful emotional states. She
would cry at the drop of a hat, and began to complain about things on a consistent basis. This was
totally unlike Jolie. The final straw was that the whole family was preparing to go to Hawaii for our
three- week Certification program—everyone except Jolie, who had to stay home in order to continue
to work at Disneyland.
One morning, she hit threshold and came to me in tears, undecided and confused. She felt so
frustrated, so unhappy and unfulfilled, yet she had achieved what seemed like an unbelievable goal
only six months earlier. Disneyland had become painful for her. Why? Because it became an obstacle
to her ability to spend time with all those she loved most. Plus Jolie always had felt that the time she
spent at Certification, where she participated as a trainer, helped her to grow more than virtually
anything else in her life. Many of her friends from around the country attended this program each year,
and Disneyland was beginning to feel frustrating to her because she really didn't feel like she was
expanding or growing there at all. She was feeling pain if she decided to come with us to Certification
(because she didn't want to be a quitter) and pain if she continued to work at Disneyland because it
would mean she'd miss out on the things that seemed so important to her.
We sat down together so that I could help her take a close look at what her top four values are in life.
They turned out to be: 1) love, 2) health and vibrancy 122 , 3) growth, and 4) accomplishment. By
turning to her values, I knew that I could help her get the clarity she needed to make the decision that
would be right for her. So I asked her, "What does working at Disneyland give you? What's important
about working at Disneyland?" She told me that she was originally excited about it because she saw it
as an opportunity to make new friends, receive recognition for her work, have fun, and experience a
tremendous sense of accomplishment.
At this point, though, she said she wasn't feeling very much accomplishment at all because she didn't
feel like she was growing anymore, and she knew there were other things she could be doing that
120 gruel Haferschleim
121 ordeal Qual, Tortur
122 vibrant kräftig (Farben, Stimme und so weiter); pulsierend (Leben)