Anthony Robbins AWAKEN THE GIANT... - Lemma Coaching

After all, how can you ever hope to win a game if you don't even know the rules?
THE CHALLENGE OF CHANGING RULES
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you knew what the rules were, but all of a sudden
exceptions started cropping up? People have the unique ability to call upon sub-rules that may be in
conflict with all their other rules. A good metaphor for this might be if you and I decide to play baseball
together, and I ask you, "Do you know how to play baseball?" and you say, "Of course." Then you'd
review the basics: "We'd play nine innings, the person who scores the most runs wins, you've got to
touch all the bases, you get three outs, and so on. If you hit a pop fly and I catch it, you're out. If I
drop it, you're safe."
So we start the game. Everything's going great until the bottom of the ninth, when the score is tied, I
have two men on and one man out, and, I hit a high pop fly to the infield. My rules say that if you
catch the ball, I'm out and the game is over, but if you drop it, I'm safe and the men on base have a
chance to score, and I could win this game. I immediately run to base; you go for the ball and drop it.
I'm thrilled, I'm on base, my teammate scores, and I think we've won the game.
But you come to me and say, "No, you're out!" I say, "What are you talking about? You dropped the
ball! The rules are that if you drop ball, then I'm safe." And then you say, "That's true, except when
there are two men on and one man out. In that case, even if I drop the ball then you're still out. That's
the one exception."
I protest, "You can't make up rules as we're going along!" You would answer, "I didn't make this up.
It's called the infield fly rule. Everyone knows about it." I turn to my teammates, and they say no such
rule exists. You turn to your teammates, and they all say that that's the rule—and we all end up
fighting over the rules.
Have you ever had this experience in a personal relationship? You were playing by all the rules, and all
of a sudden someone said, "Yes, that's true, except in this one situation," and you went ballistic.
People feel very intensely about their rules. Everyone knows their rules are the right rules. People get
especially angry when they think others are making up rules or changing them along the way. Yet this
dynamic is a part of most interactions with other human beings.
PARADOXICAL PROVERBS
Look before you leap.
Too many cooks spoil the broth.
Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
You can't teach an old dog new tricks.
The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.
A penny saved is a penny earned.
He who hesitates is lost.