Anthony Robbins AWAKEN THE GIANT... - Lemma Coaching

mind, body, and emotions. Specifically, Becky and I enjoyed the eclipse immensely. We were in Hawaii
for other reasons anyway (to conduct my three-week Certification program), so coming here a few
days early to watch the eclipse was a bonus for us.
But the real reason we enjoyed ourselves was not that we had low expectations; we were looking
forward to it. The key to our happiness could be found in one key rule we shared: we decided that our
rule for the day was that we were going to enjoy this event no matter what happened. It wasn't that
we didn't have expectations; it was that we decided that no matter what happened, we'd find a way to
enjoy it.
Now, if you adopted and consistently applied this rule to your own life, can you see how that would
change virtually everything you experience? When I tell people about this rule, some of them respond,
"Yeah, but you're just lowering your standards." Nothing could be further from the truth! To adopt this
rule is to raise your standards. It means you'll hold yourself to a higher standard of enjoying yourself
despite the conditions of the moment. It means you've committed to being intelligent enough, flexible
enough, and creative enough to direct your focus and evaluations in a way that allows you to
experience the true richness of life—maybe that's the ultimate rule.
In the last chapter, you began to design for yourself a hierarchy of values to refine and define the
direction of your life. You need to understand that whether or not you feel like you're achieving your
values is totally dependent upon your rules—your beliefs about what has to happen for you to feel
successful or happy or experiencing love.
You can decide to make happiness a priority, but if your rule for happiness is that everything must go
just as you planned, I guarantee you're not going to experience this value on a consistent basis. Life is
a variable event, so our rules must be organized in ways that allow us to adapt, grow, and enjoy. It's
critical for us to understand these unconscious beliefs that control when we give ourselves pain and
when we give ourselves pleasure.
JUDGE AND JURY
We all have different rules and standards that govern not only the way we feel about the things that
happen in our lives, but how we'll behave and respond to a given situation. Ultimately what we do and
who we become is dependent upon the direction that our values have taken us. But equally, or
possibly even more importantly, what will determine our emotions and behaviors is our beliefs about
what is good and what is bad, what we should do and what we must do. These precise standards and
criteria are what I've labeled rules.
Rules are the trigger for any pain or pleasure you feel in your nervous system at any moment. It's as if
we have a miniature court system set up within our brains. Our personal rules are the ultimate judge
and jury. They determine whether or not a certain value is met, whether we'll feel good or bad,
whether we'll give ourselves pain or pleasure. If I were to ask you, for example, "Do you have a great
body?," how would you respond? It would depend on whether you think you meet a certain set of
criteria that you believe constitutes having a great body.