t - New York Civil Liberties Union

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Union-Endicott
3/24/2011
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Young men may believe ....
Teen Dating Violence
1 in 3 Teens
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• That they have the right to control their
partners actions, thoughts, beliefs, etc.
• That physical aggressiveness translates into
masculinity
• That their partner will lose respect for them if
they are too attentive or supportive
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• That they have the right to demand intimacy
on any level
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Young women may believe ...
• That they are responsible to "fileing" a
relationship.
• That abuse is normal in a relationship
• That a boyfriends jelousy or possessiveness is
"romantic" or that it somehow means their
partner loves them.
• That varying levels of abuse are normal or that
the abuse itself is "not that bad".
• That no one can help them.
Not true.
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Dating Safety
• Consider double-dating the first few times you go out with
someone new,
• Before leaving on a date, know the exact plans for the evening
and make sure a parent or friend knows these plans and what
time to expect you home. Let your date know that you are
expected to call or tell that person when you get in,
Be aware of your decreased ability to react under the
influence of alcohol or other drugs. DO NOT LOSEYOUR
HEAD,
• IFyou leave a party with someone you do not know well,
make sure you tell another person you are leaving and with
whom, Ask a friend to call and make sure you arrived home
safely,
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• Assert yourself when necessary. Be firm and
straightforward in your relationships and
communication style. ¡
• Trust your instincts. If a situation makes you i
uncomfortable, try to be calm and think of a way
to remove yourself from the situation.
• Communicate open and honestly "l like__
don't like__ "
• Discussexpectations regarding sex and dating.
Decide and know your own limits beforehand.
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Rape - sexual intercourse under actual or
threatened force that overcomes the earnest
resistance of the victim.
Statutory Stranger
AÇ.,Ci!!.ªJntanc~ or Date Rape - forced intercourse
by someone with whom the victim has held an
ongoing social relationship. It changes
people's lives....it changes them forever.
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