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THE FOUR KEYS OVERVIEW
As you learned in the video, these are the four keys to a healthy relationship:
TRUST "
Trust could be considered the cornerstone of all healthy relationships. It is hard for any type
of relationship to grow without trust. Trust can be defined as having faith in someone that he
or she will do what he or she says. Trust also refers to believing that someone else will be
fair and honest in his or her dealings with you. When someone says; "I trust you," it implies
many things such as: I don't have to checkup on you, I know you will follow through with
whatever we have agreed on, I have a sense that you have my best interest at heart.
MUTUAL RESPECT
Mutual respect refers to a sense of admiration for one another in any relationship. It means I
understand your opinion and I will support your right to have that opinion=-even if it differs
from mine. At times, mutual respect is shown by praising the way someone handled a
particular situation. People will sometimes say that you must "earn" respect. In this sense,
we often wait to see if people say what they mean and mean what they say. We want to see
if people live their lives according to the principles they tell us are important to them. Even
if we don't agree with their beliefs, we will respect them if they demonstrate in their lifestyle
a commitment to those beliefs.
OPEN COMMUNICATION
Open communication in a relationship allows me to say whatever is on my mind as relates to
.the context of that relationship. It does not refer to sharing personal and private information.
,The sharing of that sort of information is not appropriate in all contexts. Instead, it refers to
the ability to be spontaneous in my communications andto expect the same from other
people. I feel comfortable expressing my thoughts about any issue that is relevant to this
relationship and I am equally able to listen to the other person's thoughts. I don't spend a lot
of time trying to figure out how to say something so the other person' will take me seriously,
or even just to get them to pay attention. For example, I should be able to approach my
teacher about my confusion about a grade. I hope she will hear my concerns and I hope that I
can spontaneously express my thoughts. I also hope that she will be willing to say what is
, really on her mind about my performance .:
.BOUNDARIES
Appropriate boundaries in any relationship are both physical and psychological. These
boundaries differ depending on the relationship. I need to feel comfortable about my
personal space in my interactions with others. I may not like certain people to touch me
while they are-speaking to me. I may not wish to share my feelings with everyone inmy life.
In any relationship, both parties need to respect each other's wishes about boundaries.
Simply because I enjoy being hugged by friends doesn't mean I should assume it's okay to
hug everyone else. Boundaries may expand or contract with changes in any relationship.
However, most of us are clear about how our comfort level vartes in sharing personal
information or being physically touched depending on the person with whom we have a
particular relationship.
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