Planning for Parenting Time: Ohio's Guide for Parents Living Apart
Planning for Parenting Time: Ohio's Guide for Parents Living Apart
Planning for Parenting Time: Ohio's Guide for Parents Living Apart
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Which Schedule Should We Choose?<br />
CHILDREN BENEFIT<br />
WHEN PARENTS:<br />
• Help their child have regular contact with<br />
the other parent by phone, letter, audio and<br />
videotapes, e-mail, and other <strong>for</strong>ms of<br />
communication<br />
• Keep predictable schedules<br />
• Are on time and have their child ready when<br />
it is time <strong>for</strong> the child to go with the other<br />
parent<br />
• Exchange their child without arguing<br />
• Support the child’s relationship with the<br />
other parent<br />
• Let their child carry “important” items, such<br />
as favorite clothes, toys, and security<br />
blankets with them between the parents’<br />
homes<br />
• Follow similar routines <strong>for</strong> mealtime,<br />
bedtime, and homework time<br />
• Handle rules and discipline in similar ways<br />
• Support contact with grandparents, stepparents,<br />
and other extended family so their<br />
child does not lose these relationships<br />
• Are flexible so their child can take part in<br />
special family celebrations and events<br />
• Give as much advance notice as possible to<br />
the other parent about special occasions or<br />
necessary changes to the schedule<br />
• Provide the other parent with travel dates,<br />
destinations, and places where their child<br />
and the parent can be reached when on<br />
vacation<br />
• Establish workable and respectful<br />
communication with the other parent<br />
• Plan vacations around their child’s regularly<br />
scheduled activities<br />
• Have good communication about doctors’<br />
appointments or school/social events.<br />
CHILDREN ARE HARMED<br />
WHEN PARENTS:<br />
• Make their child choose between them<br />
• Question their child about the other parent’s<br />
activities or relationships<br />
• Make promises they do not keep<br />
• Drop in and out of their child’s life<br />
• Are inconsistent in using their parenting<br />
time<br />
• Argue with or put down the other parent in<br />
front of their child or where their child can<br />
overhear<br />
• Discuss personal problems with their child<br />
or where their child can overhear<br />
• Use their child as a messenger, spy or<br />
mediator<br />
• Stop or interfere with parenting time<br />
because child support has not been paid<br />
• Do not show respect <strong>for</strong> each other<br />
• Undermine their child’s relationship with<br />
the other parent.<br />
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