How To Enhance Your Life - Dean Amory

Anyone can find UNITY, love and happiness. It would help if you would have a map of how to get
there. The STAR holds all the keys you need to find your way. The reason UNITY is at the top is
that it is the "lifting" energy for a relationship. It may be true that what attracts two people together
is often their physical appearance, some sort of instinctual drive gets engaged but, soon after getting
"close" both individuals look at each other and begin to ask more serious questions: "Could I live the
rest of my life with that person, do I really love them?" and that starts the mystical inquiry about
becoming bonded to the other person. That is when UNITY becomes so important. The best thing
two people can find is 'love at first sight' when both feel the excitement of attraction equally.
One arm of the STAR refers to NURTURANCE. The meaning of this term is found in how each
person takes care of the other with respect to their physical needs, emotional ones as well as the
material and spiritual needs. Love awakens this urge for you to either be "maternal" or "paternal" as
the case may toward your partner. The key word here is nurturing, sharing responsibilities and
helping each other achieve more in life. True love creates a desire in both individuals to support
each other through all walks of life. This does not necessarily have to be along traditional lines
rather, it often requires that both people seek unique and special ways to make their partner happy,
healthy, safe and prosperous. More than anything else if we become aware of our mate's potentials
then it is up to us to help them strive for and reach those potentials. Nurturance refers to the
direction we push and pull our love in. Everyone needs a push or a pull sometime, especially if it is
from your partner.
The next arm refers to the aspect of SHARING in the joys and pains of life from the level of the
mind, body and spirit. This reflects both individual's ability and desire to look at the world through
each others eyes, especially in terms of the past, present and future. The key word is shared vision.
This is what makes each partner feel special and valuable to the other. It is one's interest in their
opinion, their experience of life that helps you feel whole and satisfied. This aspect is expressed
through our curiosity about how our partner sees, hears or feels something. It is not necessary that
we share similar views but that both partners have a genuine interest in the other's experience.
However, it is important that we share similar dreams and goals for the future. In this manner both
partners participate in the construction of the world they live in and this allows for celebration of life
and that makes the difficult moments pass by more easily.
Then one leg of the star refers to COMPATIBILITY this aspect reveals how many ways two people
fit together, first of all in body - how great is their sexual chemistry, then socially, intellectually,
financially, emotionally, and spiritually. When two people have really great energy together, they
rarely get bored or tired of each other, there is a constant stream of excitement between them.
Compatibility refers to this sense of how well two people mix together, especially in making love,
that is where we hopefully experience the exhilaration of that instinctual passion for life. Chemistry
is physically manifested in love making, this is where the connection can be most concrete. There
are many important factors. In general, the appetite and passion are either in synch or not. The
questions are "how much sex" does each of you want - need, on a monthly basis; and secondly, does
the passion match both partners. If there are big differences in these two aspects, then don't fool
yourself thinking that you have great chemistry, it may not really be.
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