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Intimate fun Intimate fun is a dance between two very big mysteries. The first is the mystery of ME. This is the mystery with which each of us is most truly intimate. The mystery of self, of mind and body, of oneness and separateness. The second is the mystery of WE. Of an intimacy that is beyond body. Of an embracing of minds and spirit, of ME plus. Me on one side. We on the other. The rest is choreography. Maybe I’ve been spending too much time on my computer. But whenever I migrate from flash to flesh, I am increasingly amazed at how other each of us is. How other you are. And how other I seem to be when I’m with you. I’ve been focusing especially on how other we both are when we are having fun, and even more especially how other we are when we are having fun together. Like how, when we’re laughing together, it’s as if there’s another being laughing with us. Another will. A will not totally in our control. There’s something very personal about this being we create, something intimate about this kind of fun. Intimate Fun: the joyous being that we create by our being joyous together: the WE that we become when we are having fun together. The Tickled WE. Intimate Fun only lasts as long as we are each ticklish. My being tickled in turn tickles you, which in turn tickles me. Our periodic rediscovery of how tickled we each are in turn gives life to the Tickled WE. It is not about becoming the Other, or realizing the We of the Me or the Me of the We. It’s about how often we cross the line. It’s a frequency thing. When we transcend our selves and affirm each other often enough, something else happens. Something other is created. I think it’s called ” love.” 195
Funny fun Probably one of my favorite flavors of fun is the taste of what happens when we get funny together. It tastes just like laughter. Spicy. Embracing the full geography of your bio-conceptual landscape. Sometimes, we are funny together. All of us. At more or less the same time. Singing a silly song, maybe, playing a funny game. Walking a funny walk, talking in funny voices, in foreign accents, in slow motion. For me, being funny together with my wife, my kids, my grandkids, is almost always the funniest, the deepest, the most deeply funny. We’re not being silly. No way. We’re being funny together. Magically funny. Even when we are doing playful things, it’s not at all about being silly, it’s all about the funniness that we’re creating together. The magic of it. All about the laughter we are sharing. I think those times when we are funny together, those amateurish, funny together times, we are funnier than comedians and clowns. Funny beyond clever. So funny, we are taken by surprise by how funny. That’s funniest fun, it seems to me, the fun of being funny together. It’s hard sometimes to remember that. Especially if you’re in the funny business. Like a comedian or clown or something. You get so much into making people laugh that it gets to be you vs. them. Comedians say that about their acts, how they “slayed” the audience, how they “killed.” So you stop getting very much out of it. You burn out trying, because making people laugh is not like laughing with them, not like when they’re making you laugh. You get funny with no fun. Just —ny. Then there’s being funny with strangers, which I consider some kind of miracle, some kind of blessing. When I’m funny with, not funny for. When I’m being just funny enough to invite someone totally new to me to be funny, too. And that person, that stranger, invites me back, and maybe we are not so funny, but we are good, surprisingly good, witty, both of us, responsive, smoothly creating funniness together, in a theater so private there’s really no room for audience, funny for each other alone. Strangers, together, engaged in a kind of intimacy that is funny beyond laughter. That’s funniest fun, it seems to me, the fun of being funny together. 196
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A Playful Path Bernard Louis DeKove
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Contents Prelude 13 A Playful Path
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Play 147 The Sense of Play 149 Life
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Your inner Tire Swing 268 Your Inne
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how cold and wet it would be, you t
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The final section (Fun) generalizes
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A playful path “A playful path is
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caught, even, and we pause just as
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No guardrails hath the path There's
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Life and death on your playful path
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that it, too, had been repurposed
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Playfulness Playfulness isn’t rea
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Wonder The entrance to your playful
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But the payoff, the payoff! Taking
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Play playfully Playfulness opens yo
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world yoga with laughter and games
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Playing together When it comes to p
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Playfulness and humor Our sense of
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Practicing Playfulness “The Path
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Applauding leaves Here’s a story
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Toilet Paper Tug of War In my earli
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Dayeinu, the game There are some pa
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Playing with rejection Even rejecti
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The Out-Blessing game Trying to out
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Being Blessed When my wonderful fri
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Human Spring Played in pairs. Stand
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Follow the Follower Turn on some ge
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Food Theatre 1) Prepare at least fi
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P.S. You can’t make your self mor
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A Theory of Games “Fun is better
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it was all about acting like you wa
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the pursued as well as the pursuer.
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The way of games The more I played
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Games as a way of understanding Luc
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The wisdom of games Ever since I di
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Hide and Seek The hider acts as if
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to find the belt became the master
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Braving the game It takes bravery t
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and laughter as a spiritual experie
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very much bigger, so very much more
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Cooperation and competition So, let
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Loving competition One of the games
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Games are for Fun As I might have h
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The Fun-Focused game When we talk a
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admiration, of shared fun. When chi
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The Slanty Line principle There’s
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The friendly game When I think of a
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The evolving game Some games evolve
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Or, if you have a multilingual grou
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a circle) and assumes the last numb
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Of games and players One thing you
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114 Cooperative games There are bas
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We’ve made it a rule that you’r
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Of course, there are still more var
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On the other hand, sometimes it’s
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All games are cooperative Each game
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On being IT Take tag, for example.
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Funny Games “...for the truth wil
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Hug Tag Somebody’s IT. Maybe even
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Roshambo Then there’s Roshambo, f
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Rock-Scissors-Paper Tag Which bring
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Something That Beats Something Else
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And when those fail, grab as many t
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When people bump into each other, t
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eally: a Fred, a Pizza, a Furblik).
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The fun also rises Fun is our most
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Page 151 and 152: Life is play We know that play is f
Page 153 and 154: Master players Many people have com
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Page 157 and 158: Playing like a grownup You know peo
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Page 161 and 162: • the art and science of fun •
Page 163 and 164: The same is true of the human herd.
Page 165 and 166: Play and death Dying isn’t fun. B
Page 167 and 168: well, joy and comfort in each other
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Page 171 and 172: Coliberation When we play or work o
Page 173 and 174: The shared Whee What am I doing whe
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Page 177 and 178: Bill taught me this. Was this. A fl
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Page 181 and 182: Finding Fun Fun is wherever you are
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Page 185 and 186: The laws of fun Let’s divide ever
Page 187 and 188: Fun, happiness, joy, bliss When you
Page 189 and 190: Becoming Gifted On my way to work I
Page 191 and 192: The Kinds of fun “All for fun, an
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Page 209 and 210: Good fun Good fun is a healing kind
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Page 215 and 216: Fun with your self Some games we pl
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Page 229 and 230: The spirit of fun Fun is a spiritua
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Of fun and games The world that we
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If I were the One and the One were
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The Oaqui explain(s) fun According
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The Not-Yet fun Fun is the key. But
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Two Players - a Oaqui tale I asked
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The Therapeutics of Primal Glee, ac
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Appendix “Play is how the mind mi
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My oral coronation There I was, lyi
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The Inner Inner City Amuse my self,
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Building your inner playground As w
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Your Inner Swingset Congratulations
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Your Inner Tire Swing Imagine your
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Control Button two: Changing locati
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Your Inner Sandbox Before we go any
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Preparing your Inner playground for
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Enter Silly and Serious At last, he
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you from all to nothing, from infin
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Silly and Serious get scared Silly
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Serious And Silly meet Naughty and
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Silly plays grownup One of the big
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that was as good at being silly as
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Your Inner Thespian So there you ar
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er end. Wrong would simply keep on
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Endnotes i Almost everything you ne
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supposed to be doing, with the fun
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