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“ So it was making me very horny, but impotent […]<br />
And the whole process of having to find it [crystal<br />
meth], buy it, do it, experience the feelings of it, trying<br />
to hook up with men, and then the frustration of<br />
knowing you can’t get an erection. And in the end, just<br />
sitting around watching porn, trying to get this out of<br />
your system. You can’t even masturbate, because you<br />
can’t get a hard on. ”<br />
[Aged 48, last tested HIV negative]<br />
It was very common for men to take medication to<br />
counteract erectile dysfunction arising from <strong>chemsex</strong><br />
drugs, thus enabling sexual performance in a period of<br />
enhanced sexual desire. However, some lamented the loss<br />
of sexual climax with partners, feeling that ejaculation<br />
was a core component of enjoyable sex which often<br />
cannot be achieved when drugs have been used.<br />
5.3 INTIMACY AND SEXUAL CONNECTION<br />
Over two-thirds of the participants described how drugs<br />
were sometimes able to enhance the sense of connection<br />
they felt with their sexual partner. Several articulated<br />
very intense feelings of sexual intimacy and a sense that<br />
they were ‘on another level’ with their sexual partner. This<br />
stemmed from a feeling they were in touch with both<br />
their own senses and the desires of their partner.<br />
“ It puts you so much in the moment, so I’m just talking<br />
about G in particular. It kind of makes me feel like I’m<br />
so much in that one moment and with those people<br />
and in that moment physically in a very sensual,<br />
passionate, physical way. Not in this abstract ethereal<br />
way, kind of all in my head. It’s not, I’m in my body. It<br />
puts me in my body. And that kind of reconnection<br />
with my own body that I think I just ignore so much<br />
when I’m not high. It’s that very physical reconnection<br />
that actually drives the horniness, that drives the fact<br />
that I don’t have to think about these things anymore.<br />
[Aged 32, last tested HIV negative]<br />
”<br />
However, this effect was often hard to achieve and could<br />
be short-lived. Nearly all men talked of problems related<br />
to not being ‘on the same level’ with their sexual partners.<br />
If the other person had taken different drugs, or more<br />
drugs, then some <strong>report</strong>ed it was difficult or impossible<br />
to achieve this connection. Some men also felt that drugs<br />
distorted their view of real emotion and attraction – men<br />
with whom they shared an intense, cognitively-connected,<br />
sexual experience could appear cold or distant when the<br />
effects of the drugs wore off.<br />
“ I think you do feel more connected with someone<br />
when you’re on drugs because you’re both on the<br />
same level and there’ that kind of passion there. But<br />
it’s not real. It’s a fake passion. That’s what I always<br />
remind myself – it’s synthetic. It’s not real.<br />
[Aged 21, last tested<br />
”<br />
HIV negative]<br />
This emotional and intimate dimension of <strong>chemsex</strong> was<br />
a significant contributor to dependency, particularly<br />
when considering that sex within romantic or intimate<br />
relationships was desired by the majority of those we<br />
interviewed (see section 5.6).<br />
However, sexual connection was not a key factor for all<br />
men, or even for some men at all times – others said that<br />
intimate sex just was not possible on drugs.<br />
“ Taking crystal it makes me a bit more animalistic […] it<br />
makes sex very kind of – not aggressive but instinctive.<br />
It’s like more raw, for want of a better word. I don’t<br />
think you have sensual sex on crystal.<br />
[Aged 28, diagnosed<br />
”<br />
HIV positive]<br />
The Chemsex Study | 5. THE IMPACT OF DRUGS ON SEXUAL PLEASURE AND SEXUAL PERFORMANCE 44