May2015
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Dear Out of Control 13-year-old,<br />
Anger is a normal emotion for people to feel. Learning how to<br />
express your anger assertively can result in productive solutions<br />
at school, work, with family and friends. Local and world<br />
news provides ongoing daily examples of how lives, families,<br />
and countries are destroyed when anger is expressed aggressively.<br />
Passively holding in your anger can destroy your health<br />
as stress attacks your body from within. You will not outgrow<br />
your response to anger; instead you must learn specific steps<br />
to respond to anger. Investigate the triggers to your anger and<br />
practice identifying the very first clue your body experiences<br />
such as increased heart rate, flushed face, heavy clenched fists,<br />
or tense muscles. You mentioned mistreatment by others is<br />
your trigger. Removing yourself from the situation immediately<br />
is not often feasible, but the best option when available. Even<br />
a 30-second break can be effective once you learn what to do<br />
in that brief time to calm your initial reaction. Simply removing<br />
yourself and waiting to respond may have the effect of increasing<br />
your anger while anxiously waiting. As you experiment with<br />
different strategies you will find what works best for you. It is not<br />
enough to tackle each instance; you must eat regularly, sleep<br />
enough, exercise, and nourish your relationships daily in order<br />
to remain calm. A therapist can serve as a resource and coach<br />
while you go through this learning process. With investigation<br />
and practice you will conquer your expression of anger. Your<br />
relationship with family and friends will be healthier as well as<br />
your body! P<br />
- Dr. Renae<br />
CALLING<br />
ALL<br />
MIDDLE AND<br />
HIGH SCHOOL<br />
TEENS<br />
ASK DR. RENAE is an advice<br />
column for teens with advice from<br />
real teenagers. We are currently<br />
recruiting interested middle and<br />
high school students to help provide<br />
advice to their peers.<br />
All advice is reviewed, selected<br />
and screened by Dr. Renae Lapin, a<br />
licensed marriage and family therapist currently<br />
working for the Broward County School Board’s Family<br />
Counseling Program. Dr. Renae has 33 years’ experience as a<br />
family counselor and has been writing a monthly column in the<br />
Parklander for the past seven years on school related and parenting<br />
issues. Your advice will be published anonymously (but you<br />
can tell your friends that it is yours!). Teacher recommendation<br />
and parent permission required. Interested? Write to ASK DR.<br />
RENAE for an application at askdrrenae@att.net.<br />
If you are a teen with a question or problem for which you<br />
would like advice from a peer, write to ASK DR. RENAE for a<br />
confidential response to your question printed in the Parklander.<br />
No names or identifying information will be published. Please give<br />
your age and/or grade level in school, and let us know if you are a<br />
guy or girl. All inquiries should be directed to: askdrrenae@att.net.<br />
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