Mark Manson - The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F__k (2016, HarperOne) - libgen.li

acute psychological pain as well. In fact, research has found that our brains
don’t register much difference between physical pain and psychological pain.
So when I tell you that my first girlfriend cheating on me and leaving me felt
like having an ice pick slowly inserted into the center of my heart, that’s
because, well, it hurt so much I might as well have had an ice pick slowly
inserted into the center of my heart.
Like physical pain, our psychological pain is an indication of something
out of equilibrium, some limitation that has been exceeded. And like our
physical pain, our psychological pain is not necessarily always bad or even
undesirable. In some cases, experiencing emotional or psychological pain
can be healthy or necessary. Just like stubbing our toe teaches us to walk into
fewer tables, the emotional pain of rejection or failure teaches us how to
avoid making the same mistakes in the future.
And this is what’s so dangerous about a society that coddles itself more
and more from the inevitable discomforts of life: we lose the benefits of
experiencing healthy doses of pain, a loss that disconnects us from the reality
of the world around us.
You may salivate at the thought of a problem-free life full of everlasting
happiness and eternal compassion, but back here on earth the problems never
cease. Seriously, problems don’t end. Disappointment Panda just dropped by.
We had margaritas, and he told me all about it: problems never fucking go
away, he said—they just improve. Warren Buffett’s got money problems; the
drunk hobo down at Kwik-E Mart’s got money problems. Buffett’s just got
better money problems than the hobo. All of life is like this.
“Life is essentially an endless series of problems, Mark,” the panda told
me. He sipped his drink and adjusted the little pink umbrella. “The solution
to one problem is merely the creation of the next one.”
A moment passed, and then I wondered where the fuck the talking panda
came from. And while we’re at it, who made these margaritas?
“Don’t hope for a life without problems,” the panda said. “There’s no
such thing. Instead, hope for a life full of good problems.”
And with that, he set his glass down, adjusted his sombrero, and
sauntered off into the sunset.
Happiness Comes from Solving Problems