Find Freedom From What Does Not Serve You AT FORTY FIVE Magazine Issue 2101 06
A magazine for women 45+ who want to own aging with spirit and joy. For those of us rediscovering who we are & exploring what we want next. We want more; health, wealth, happiness, & fulfillment. Join women around the world navigating the best years yet.
A magazine for women 45+ who want to own aging with spirit and joy. For those of us rediscovering who we are & exploring what we want next. We want more; health, wealth, happiness, & fulfillment. Join women around the world navigating the best years yet.
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WHEN WE CARE TOO<br />
MUCH IT HURTS<br />
/ BY SUE DUMAIS<br />
Caring too much can be more harmful than helpful. The idea that we should be caring and<br />
compassionate individuals is not a new concept. We are taught at a very young age to care about<br />
others but the problem is that there is more importance placed on caring about what others think,<br />
do, and have. We are often programmed to care more about other people’s lives and their opinions<br />
than our own lives and opinions.<br />
“<strong>What</strong> will the neighbours think?”<br />
“Stop doing that—everyone is watching.”<br />
We learn to care so much that we are in constant judgment or fear of judgment, judging whether<br />
others are good or bad, rich or poor, kind or mean, healthy or unhealthy; judging whether they like<br />
us or not and whether they approve of what we are doing or not doing. Caring more about others<br />
becomes a distraction from caring about ourselves and it also opens us up to deep hurt and more<br />
harm than good.<br />
When I was knee-deep into the fitness and wellness industry, I was a sponge for knowledge. I was<br />
constantly taking courses, reading books, and studying research. <strong>Find</strong>ing out how the body works<br />
and what makes it tick consumed me. I was addicted to health and sharing that message with<br />
others. It fed my childhood desire to save the world. In truth, it wasn’t just a strong desire—it<br />
became my responsibility. In other words, I made it my mission, my responsibility. It was on my<br />
shoulders to save the world and everyone in it, including the animals. Just a small burden to bear!<br />
When people were interested in what I had to teach them, it was easy, fulfilling, and I felt a deep<br />
sense of purpose and impact. But my desire to save the world wasn’t just for those who were<br />
interested or ready to be saved. I wanted to help EVERYONE whether they wanted help or not. <strong>What</strong><br />
I thought was if I could just teach them what I knew they would see how important it was and they