Island Parent Magazine Oct-Nov 2021

More documents

Recommendations

Info

CutitOut! Healthy Anxiety Children need to experience healthy anxiety. Everybody does. Just the right amount of frustration or concern motivates us to take useful action. With healthy anxiety, we prepare for our presentation, study for that test, or put on our seat belt. If we take over our children’s responsibility, we carry their healthy anxiety for them. We end up worrying about their responsibility, so they don’t have to. When we do this, we rob them of important steps toward maturity. Many people say that when they were kids, they were way more resilient and responsible. STAGES Performing Arts School since 1980 Come Dance With Us • Offering classes for Teens & Pre-Teens in Jazz, Ballet, Lyrical, Tap. Musical Theatre, Acrobatics & Hip Hop, in a non-competitive atmosphere. • Not sure which class to take? - Try a Drop-In: No hassle, No Obligation. Daytime Pre-School Classes for the little angels... STAGES Performing Arts School #301 1551 Cedar Hill X Rd (behind the Shelbourne MacDonalds) Call 250-384-3267 Email us at: stagesdance@shaw.ca Or visit our website: www.stagesdance.com Why was that? Is it because they were a well behaved, obedient child? I doubt it. That kind of pseudo maturity falls apart when the structures collapse. If mom or dad isn’t there to notice, correct, reward or punish, then why bother? True responsibility comes from the inside. It doesn’t have to be monitored, praised or rewarded although we all like a little appreciation and acknowledgement. Self-discipline is not an act of people pleasing, it is the relationship you have with your values. It’s doing the right thing because you understand why. Of course, this takes time but what sends a child in the right direction is allowing them to face surmountable challenges. We release responsibility to children slowly and with guidance. We teach them how to do a task and watch over them while they put that learning into action (or not). We give them space to struggle and think things through before we give them a reminder. We might even see them struggle, just a little, as we hold our breath before jumping in. Eventually, they learn to pull themselves up into the swing, tie their own shoelaces, take care of their schoolwork, get themselves ready and so on. When the timing is right, we lovingly pull back. How can we nurture the security in our child to struggle just enough, and to ask for help when they need it? Pick up on the signals when a child is seeking more independence. Avoid taking over, you are way too good at doing all these things. When a child has a problem, stand behind them. Pull out their resources – What could work? What has worked before? How can I help? When a child knows we have their back and we believe in them, they are motivated by the hope of success rather than paralyzed by the fear of failure. Dr. Allison Rees is a parent educator, counsellor and coach at LIFE Seminars (Living in Families Effectively), lifeseminars.com. 38 Island Parent Magazine IslandParent.ca
westcoast amilies JUNE/JULY 2021 FREE! BC Bird Trails FOR FAMILIES Vancouver Island’s Parenting Resource for 32 Years Things to Do 10 (Before Summer Ends) westcoast families SPRING 2021 FR THE BENEFITS OF YOGA FOR KIDS Best Family SUV’s FOR ADVENTURE SPRING CLEANING SUMMER PLANNING FOO TO WAK YOU U FAMILY-FRIENDLY STAYCATIONS FOR SUMMER 2021! Back-to-School Brain Boosters GET READY! Our Family Schools & has Educational Services Grown! WWW.WESTCOASTFAMILIES.COM Celebrating the modern family lifestyle on the West Coast JUNE/JULY 2021 Ways to Be a Fabulous 10 RAND westcoast 10Grandparent families WWW.WESTCOASTFAMILIES.COM Vol. IV, Ed. I grandmag.ca MARCH | APRIL 2020 FREE! FREE COPY Vancouver Island’s Parenting Resource for 33 Years It’s the ‘Little Things’ that Matter this Summer Rock the Podcast How to create —and launch— an engaging and entertaining podcast Truth & ReconciliACTION Running Your First 10k camps SLEEPAWAY TIPS FOR KIDS From the Start A birth An excerpt Explore the Island! A Region-by-Regi Guide TRAVELLING SOLO We are Close to Home now BC’s largest publisher of Comox Valley Things to Do WESTCOASTFAMILIES.COM in June & July family-focused publications, reaching all of Mar/Apr 2020 1 Celebrating the modern family lifestyle on the West Coast AUG/SEPT 2021 FREE COPY Vancouver Island Vol. IV, Ed. II and the Lower Mainland. GRAND FR westcoast AT HOME (DIGITAL EDIT Move Well & Vancouver Island’s Parenting Resource for 33 Years Age Gracefully families grandmag.ca Grandfathered FALL 2020 BACK TO SCHOOL BC'S BEST BIKE TRIPS The Lazy Mom’s Q&A Victor & Edith Newman Master Carver PREPPING FOR PUPPY!
Page 1 and 2: oCt/NoV 2021 FRee CoPY Vancouver Is
Page 3 and 4: IslandParent.ca October/November 20
Page 5 and 6: Fastforward How Parenting Needs to
Page 7 and 8: Science in the Park Live It Earth L
Page 9 and 10: Celebrating Community Resilience Yo
Page 11 and 12: Think about the feeling you experie
Page 13 and 14: needs a parent to let him into the
Page 15 and 16: online which is described as “cut
Page 17 and 18: TWEENS&TEENS TEENS Raising a Worker
Page 19 and 20: knowledge, they are better able to
Page 21 and 22: • Punctuality. If I’m not on ti
Page 23 and 24: ceeded to tell her that he thought
Page 25 and 26: connections and night-time social m
Page 27 and 28: ever and my two older kids grew up
Page 29 and 30: Pumpkin Carving Contest N Daily unt
Page 31 and 32: Dill Pickle Popcorn (Total time: 15
Page 33 and 34: your favourite parts of the day and
Page 35 and 36: The final book is In the Dark: The
Page 37: Victoria & Area Peninsula Westshore

Island Parent Magazine Oct-Nov 2021

Create successful ePaper yourself

Delete template?

Save as template?