Island Parent Magazine Oct-Nov 2021
Victoria, Vancouver Island parenting and family resource Special Feature: Tweens & Teens 6 Simple Strategies to Handle Stress A Weekend Away:Top 5 fall activities for families in Whistler Mixing Neurodiverse with Neurotypical Family & Friends
Victoria, Vancouver Island parenting and family resource
Special Feature: Tweens & Teens
6 Simple Strategies to Handle Stress
A Weekend Away:Top 5 fall activities for families in Whistler
Mixing Neurodiverse with Neurotypical Family & Friends
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Fastforward<br />
How <strong>Parent</strong>ing Needs to Change<br />
During the ’Tweens & Teens<br />
By the time our kids reach their<br />
teens, many of them will be<br />
ready—or almost ready—to fire us<br />
as their decision makers and take control<br />
of their own lives. And we should be willing<br />
to step aside.<br />
According to neuropsychologist William<br />
Stixrud and long-time educator<br />
Ned Johnson, authors of The Self-Driven<br />
Child, if we are too controlling, we invite<br />
rebellion. Set harsh rules and our ’tweens<br />
and teens are bound to break ’em. Cut<br />
them some slack—without abandoning<br />
the word ‘no’ or your family’s most<br />
important rules—and watch them rise to<br />
the challenge.<br />
Involve ’tweens and teens more in<br />
creating the rules, advise Stixrud and<br />
Johnson, and then let them make their<br />
own decisions—which they are going to<br />
do anyway.<br />
“Letting our kids become the primary<br />
decision makers does not mean that we<br />
become permissive, indulgent, or disengaged,”<br />
writes Christine Carter, author<br />
of The New Adolescence: Raising Happy<br />
and Successful Teens in an Age of Anxiety<br />
and Distraction. “It does mean that<br />
the quality—if not the quantity—of our<br />
support shifts. We give up our role as<br />
their chief of staff and become more like<br />
life coaches. We ask questions and provide<br />
emotional support.”<br />
To that end, we hope this issue helps<br />
you strike a balance between your roles<br />
as chief of staff and life coach. You’ll find<br />
articles on topics ranging from six simple<br />
strategies to help you handle stress, the<br />
challenges of mixing neurodiverse with<br />
neurotypical family and friends, and pandemic<br />
burnout, to positive body image,<br />
the importance of equipping our kids<br />
with financial know-how, and the top 5<br />
activities for a family weekend away in<br />
Whistler.<br />
Check out our special section, ’Tweens<br />
& Teens, starting on page 17. In this<br />
8-page pull-out, you’ll find articles on<br />
topics ranging from asking questions<br />
without interrogating, helping our youth<br />
increase their ‘body literacy,’ and accepting<br />
and supporting our child’s gender<br />
identity, to the importance of work experience,<br />
and ways social media affects teen<br />
sleep.<br />
No matter what stage of parenting<br />
you’re at—a chief of staff with toddlers<br />
or a life coach with ’tweens and teens—<br />
may you enjoy this stage to its fullest and<br />
find balance between hanging on and<br />
letting go.<br />
– Sue Fast<br />
Skate where the<br />
Victoria Royals play!<br />
Public skating and lessons are back this fall<br />
at the Save-On-Foods Memorial Centre.<br />
> Choose group or private lessons<br />
> Skate and helmet rentals are available<br />
View the schedule and register: victoria.ca/arena<br />
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