The Art Of Tammy Bailey AT FORTY FIVE Magazine Issue R 2021 12

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One of the most effective tools I offer my
clients to move anger and dense long-held
emotions, thoughts, and beliefs is an
“expression session.” This is where I hold space
for them to bring all their hidden thoughts
and beliefs into the light for healing. They get
to share, express, say, yell, scream, growl,
swear, and cry; they say whatever they need
to say in order to release what they are
holding inside. There is no conversation, just a
nonjudgmental space for expression. If the
anger is directed at a specific person or
situation, I encourage my client to use
language that makes it sound like they are
speaking directly to that individual.
This type of session is extremely cathartic as
all the unspoken thoughts and feelings that
have been plaguing a person come to the
surface and are released. It works well for
expressing all of our internal critical thoughts
as well. Sharing our negative critical self-talk
out loud exposes it and releases it. I often say
it is like throwing it all up. I encourage clients
to keep going until they feel as though they
have emptied it all out, to the point where
there is nothing left to say. Most of the time,
there is an underlying fear, grief, or a sense of
loss hidden beneath the anger. An expression
session is a powerful tool that requires a
compassionate witness who can be fully
present, nonjudgmental, and who won’t get
caught up in the words and the story. If you
need support in releasing anger or other
pent-up feelings, contact me for an
expression session.
to say. Once you feel you have emptied out all
the words onto paper, burn the copy or delete
it. I cannot stress this enough—it is for your
eyes only! When you burn the letter or delete it,
set an intention to let it all go. It may be helpful
to follow up your eff-you letter with a
forgiveness letter.
Stay tuned next week for chapter 8 ~ When Life
Bumps Up Against Your Leftovers
***This is an excerpt from Sue Dumais' book
"Stand UP Stand OUT Stand STRONG ~ A 30
Day Guide to Navigate Life When the SHIFT
Hits the Fan" (Published in 2018)
Published on atfortyfive.com with permission
from © Sue Dumais
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Another way to release what is bottled up
inside you is to write an eff-you letter. It is a
letter to the individual that is NOT to be sent.
This is for your eyes only. Let it all out and say
what you have always wanted to say or need