CHECK Magazin - Gesundheitsmagazin für Männer No.17

CHECK MAG #17
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There are an incredible number
of myths about sex and sexuality.
Films, pictures, porn, books, songs,
dances, symbolic actions, and certain
gestures or insinuations consciously
or unconsciously shape our sexual
behaviour. Social ideas also influence
our sexual behaviour, making it
marketable and capitalisable.
We often feel a certain pressure to
conform to predetermined patterns,
standards or experiences, even when
our own sexuality deviates from the
normative sexual representations
we see in the world. This can cause
sexual problems or even spoil the
pleasure of sex.
It often takes years to say goodbye to
the social and cultural expectations
of what sexuality should be like after
you have become aware of how your
own view of sexuality and pleasure
has been shaped. In my practice, I
regularly debunk sexuality myths
with my clients. Here are my top 10:
THINGS WE SHOULDN’T
EXPECT FROM SEX, OR
IN OTHER WORDS,
HOW TO HAVE A MORE
FULFILLING SEX LIFE.
My body should be aroused and
1. ready for sex immediately.
Don’t forget that you are not a machine. You live
in your organic body. Everything you perceive
and experience has an effect on your desire and
arousal, from everyday stress and emotional strain,
to the room temperature. If arousal is difficult for
you and you are not ready, your body is not broken,
but is trying to tell you something. So listen!
2.
Gender-specific role stereotypes.
Men have one kind of sex and women have
another. Incorrect. Sexuality is not gender-specific,
if only because there are multiple gender identities
outside of the gender binary.
3.
Sex is always visually flawless.
In porn movies, everything looks pretty
and clean. Free yourself from the idea that reality
has to be the same. Be aware that it’s all staged and
planned down to the smallest detail.
4.
I can only have sex if I always
have a positive body image.
Actually, it’s the other way around. Sex promotes
our positive body image. Sex strengthens our body
awareness and at the same time we get to know our
body better and enjoy it. So have sex and feel better
in your body.
5.
I have a constant desire for my
partner and my partner for me.
Passion comes and goes in relationships. It’s
not always all about you and listlessness is not
always a sign of danger. Our sexuality and desire
for our partners are complex phenomena. Be
curious and explore insecurity when it arises.
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