The hardest thing we have ever done - Palliative Care Australia
The hardest thing we have ever done - Palliative Care Australia
The hardest thing we have ever done - Palliative Care Australia
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Positive feedback about the role of caring<br />
<strong>Care</strong>r of mother with renal cancer<br />
I need to stress that caring for Mum has been one of the most rewarding <strong>thing</strong>s I <strong>have</strong> <strong>ever</strong><br />
<strong>done</strong> - it was a beautiful experience, and one that I will value and cherish always. It has made<br />
the grieving journey harder in some ways, but I am left with the most wonderful memories of<br />
my Mother whom I got to know in a way that was so much deeper than I could <strong>ever</strong> <strong>have</strong><br />
imagined. It was a privilege and a joy, and I hope that many others may take this path and<br />
reap the same rewards.<br />
As you define ‘social impact’ for the purposes of this inquiry, you talk about factors that<br />
‘subtract’ from the quality of life of the carers. Ho<strong>we</strong>ver, it is hard for me to see that any<strong>thing</strong><br />
subtracted from the quality of my life. For I feel that <strong>ever</strong>y factor, <strong>ever</strong>y experience, no matter<br />
how difficult, all added to the total experience and enriched me. I could talk about the<br />
negative <strong>thing</strong>s, but these seem out of place without balancing them with the positive - and<br />
the positive far out<strong>we</strong>ighed the negative. I could see that there could <strong>have</strong> been certain<br />
improvements in the health system that could <strong>have</strong> served to increase my mother’s and<br />
ultimately my own comfort. And I realise that I had the skills to navigate the system where<br />
many others may not <strong>have</strong>. I had the advantage of being younger and stronger than many<br />
carers, and also I came into the situation willingly, it was not forced upon me.<br />
<strong>Care</strong>r for son with bo<strong>we</strong>l cancer<br />
I feel very passionate about being able to die at home, that I <strong>have</strong> joined the <strong>Palliative</strong> <strong>Care</strong><br />
Volunteers Support Group. I hope, with all my heart, that I can pass on my experience to as<br />
many people as possible and to help them die <strong>we</strong>ll.<br />
<strong>Care</strong>r of wife with MND<br />
I <strong>have</strong> the deepest admiration for carers, for I now know what they <strong>have</strong> to cope with, in many<br />
cases for much longer periods of time that I had to. Few people ask to be carers, in the sense in<br />
which you use the word. But being a carer is one of the greatest gifts <strong>we</strong> can give to those <strong>we</strong><br />
love – even though <strong>we</strong> wish it <strong>we</strong>re a gift <strong>we</strong> n<strong>ever</strong> had to give.<br />
<strong>Care</strong>r for father with prostate cancer<br />
On the whole <strong>we</strong> feel <strong>we</strong> managed quite <strong>we</strong>ll. It was the <strong>hardest</strong> <strong>thing</strong> <strong>we</strong> <strong>have</strong> <strong>ever</strong> <strong>done</strong>. We<br />
are a very close family and <strong>ever</strong>yone pulled together to do what <strong>we</strong> all thought was best for<br />
Dad and Mum. Unfortunately many families do not <strong>have</strong> the support of each other as <strong>we</strong> did. I<br />
know a lot of people might like to stay in their own homes but do not <strong>have</strong> the support from<br />
families and friends. It is a big big job and <strong>ever</strong>yone deals with it in a different way.<br />
<strong>Care</strong>r for son with bo<strong>we</strong>l cancer<br />
His sister and brother took leave without pay to care for him. It was the most wonderful <strong>thing</strong><br />
to witness as the bond bet<strong>we</strong>en the three children became so strong.<br />
<strong>Care</strong>r for father with prostate cancer<br />
Many people today on hearing about palliative care think of it as full of sadness- and there is<br />
this element in it- but actually it also holds many light moments of joy and pleasures in<br />
meeting relatives, sharing a joke, recipes… Reaping the experiences of new ideas and obtaining<br />
values, challenged by the unexpected, and gaining a new slant at looking at life. Speaking for<br />
myself, I <strong>have</strong> found it to be a most rewarding sincere venture. I did my palliative care training<br />
after my dad died and I am continuing as a palliative carer.<br />
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