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Rape is <strong>for</strong> someone who you are not related to, but being <strong>for</strong>ced to have sex is when<br />
your sex partner can decide to have sex with you without your consent. When it is done<br />
by someone who is a stranger to you it becomes a big issue but if it is your sex partner<br />
you have to tolerate it because marital issues should remain inside.<br />
Female PFG participant (25+ years old), Iringa<br />
While both men <strong>and</strong> women overwhelmingly agreed with this distinction, one female PFG<br />
participant put <strong>for</strong>ward the controversial idea that <strong>for</strong>ced sex within a relationship should<br />
also be considered rape.<br />
If I don’t feel like having sex <strong>and</strong> he <strong>for</strong>ces me, won’t that be rape Even if he is my<br />
husb<strong>and</strong>, I don’t feel like having sex <strong>and</strong> if he <strong>for</strong>ces me then that is rape.<br />
Female PFG participant (25+ years old), Mbeya<br />
Given the Tanzanian legal <strong>and</strong> social contexts, which do not recognize marital rape, it is<br />
perhaps not surprising that the views expressed by this participant were not agreed upon by<br />
other members of her focus group.<br />
Threats or use of a weapon<br />
When threats or use of weapons was mentioned in PFGs, there was consensus that such<br />
acts crossed the threshold into being unacceptable <strong>for</strong>ms of violence. This perception was<br />
attributed to the severity of the act itself as well as the risk inherent in the threat or use of<br />
a knife or other weapon:<br />
To hold any weapon against somebody is not perceived as normal, holding a knife,<br />
machete, axe, all that is not normal… when it comes to holding a knife you leave <strong>and</strong><br />
escape the possibility of being killed.<br />
Female PFG participant (25+ years old), Mbeya<br />
Being <strong>for</strong>ced to have anal sex (even within a relationship)<br />
In contrast to <strong>for</strong>ced sex within a relationship, <strong>for</strong>ced anal sex was viewed as completely<br />
unacceptable. This is due in large part to societal norms that make anal sex, even if<br />
consensual, a taboo. The degree to which it is considered unacceptable was underscored by<br />
the quote below, which describes that a woman’s family would encourage <strong>and</strong> support her<br />
decision to leave a relationship in which <strong>for</strong>ced anal sex had occurred:<br />
If you are <strong>for</strong>ced to have anal sex, that is not ok. Even your parents will tell you to ask<br />
<strong>for</strong> a divorce immediately <strong>and</strong> go back home. And they will st<strong>and</strong> by you all the way<br />
through.<br />
Female PFG participant (25+ years old), Dar es Salaam<br />
The subject of anal sex, <strong>for</strong>ced or otherwise, was mentioned only in the female PFGs.<br />
<strong>Help</strong>-<strong>Seeking</strong> <strong>Pathways</strong> <strong>and</strong> <strong>Barriers</strong> <strong>for</strong> Survivors of GBV in Tanzania March 2013<br />
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