Counselor's Manual for Relapse Prevention With Chemically ...

family, or stay away from my old friends.___ 2. Denial: I tell myself it will all work out. I pretend everything is all right. Whenpeople ask me about my problems, I tell them I will be okay, even though I am notsure.___ 3. Belief that troubles are over: I convince myself that I've learned my lesson and willnever do anything illegal again. I tell my friends, family, counselor and probationofficer, "I've really learned this time," even though I do not have a plan for how tochange.___ 4. Uncomfortable feelings: I feel uncomfortable around people who are not involvedin illegal activities. They seem boring, and I get nervous and jumpy. I want moreexcitement in my life.___ 5. "All or nothing" thinking: I feel like I must be the best or I will be nothing. I must bevery successful at everything I do. I get excited and build up in my mind howsuccessful I must be. I feel that if I do not do everything right, I will fail.___ 6. Unrealistic feelings: I think things should go my way just because I want them to.Because other people want me to succeed and I want to do well, things willhappen the way I want them to.___ 7. Not planning ahead: I do not plan for the future. When people ask me what myplans are, I tell them what I think they want to hear.___ 8. Lack of effort: I do not do things that I do not like or that are boring or hard for me.I do not look into jobs or other things that might help me, and I find excuses for notdoing these things.___ 9. Building self up: I make myself feel better by putting other people down. I tellmyself how stupid other people are. Most of the time I just think it, but sometimesI tell people that they are dumb or do not know anything.___ 10. Poor decision making: I make decisions on the spur of the moment withoutthinking about what might happen. Afterwards, I think, "I really screwed up."___ 11. Sensing a lack of trust: I feel like others do not agree with me or do not trust me. Ithink people should trust me no matter what I may have done in the past. I tellthem I have changed, and I expect them to believe me. Their lack of trust makesme angry.