Little eyes, little ears - Agence de la sante publique du Canada
Little eyes, little ears - Agence de la sante publique du Canada
Little eyes, little ears - Agence de la sante publique du Canada
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<strong>little</strong> <strong>eyes</strong>,<strong>little</strong> <strong>ears</strong>School-aged children 3, 8As children grow throughthe elementary school y<strong>ears</strong> ...their un<strong>de</strong>rstanding of abuse against their mothersgets more sophisticated.A school-aged child may recognize how actions havereasons and consequences and that mothers may be upseteven after a “fight” ends. They probably see “fighting”as caused by stress, family finances, alcohol, or whateverelse their parents argue over. Believing this exp<strong>la</strong>nationis easier (emotionally) than seeing a beloved parent assomeone who is mean on purpose. Seeing a “fight,” theyjudge the behaviour by its fairness: who started it, who isbigger, and if any consequence is <strong>de</strong>served.Sue Penfold et al. (2005). Helping My Child:A Gui<strong>de</strong> to Supporting Children Exposedto Domestic Violence. Vancouver BC: BritishColumbia's Children's Hospital. [www.bcysth.ca]At this age, children come to i<strong>de</strong>ntifywith their same-sex parent. They learnwhat it means to be male and femalein our society, but this learning isdistorted when they live with violenceagainst their mother.-How might violence at homeshape normal <strong>de</strong>velopment? 3, 8KEY ASPECTS OFDEVELOPMENTIncreased emotiona<strong>la</strong>wareness for selfand othersIncreased complexityin thinking about rightand wrong; emphasison fairness and intentAca<strong>de</strong>mic and socialsuccess at school hasprimary impact onself-conceptIncreased influencefrom outsi<strong>de</strong> family(e.g., peers, school) andcompetition assumesnew importance withinpeer groupIncreased same-sexi<strong>de</strong>ntificationPOTENTIAL IMPACT OFDOMESTIC VIOLENCEmore aware of ownreactions to violence;more aware of impact onothers (e.g., mother'ssafety, father being charged)possibly more susceptibleto rationalizations heard tojustify violence (e.g., alcoho<strong>la</strong>s cause, victim <strong>de</strong>servesit) or may challengerationalizations not viewedas fair or right; may assess“was the fight fair?”; cansee discrepancies betweenactions and words andconsi<strong>de</strong>r intent; justificationsinvolving children may leadto self-b<strong>la</strong>me or guiltlearning may becompromised (e.g., childmay be distracted); maymiss positive statementsor selectively attend tonegatives or evoke negativefeedback.possibly more influenced bymessages that confirmattitu<strong>de</strong>s and behavioursassociated with partnerabuse; may use hostileaggression to compete;increased risk for bullyingand/or being bulliedmay learn gen<strong>de</strong>r rolesassociated with partner abuse(e.g., male as perpetrators,female as victims)20