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Our experience of this reality had nothing to do with reality, but was interpreted through <strong>the</strong> controlling<br />
force of our beliefs: specifically, <strong>the</strong> rules we had about what had to happen in order for us to feel good.<br />
I call <strong>the</strong>se specific beliefs that determine when we get pain and when we get pleasure rules. Failure to<br />
understand <strong>the</strong>ir power can destroy any possibility for lifelong happiness, and a full understanding and<br />
utilization of <strong>the</strong>m can transform your life as much as anything we’ve covered in this entire book.<br />
Let me ask you a question before we go any fur<strong>the</strong>r. What has to happen in order for you to feel good?<br />
Do you have to have someone hug you, kiss you, make love to you, tell you how much <strong>the</strong>y respect and<br />
appreciate you? Must you make a million dollars? Do you have to hit below-par golf? Do you have to be<br />
acknowledged by your boss? Do you have to achieve all of your goals? Do you have to drive <strong>the</strong> right<br />
car, go to <strong>the</strong> right parties, be known by <strong>the</strong> right people? Do you have to be spiritually evolved or wait<br />
until you achieve total enlightenment? Do you have to run five miles a day? What really has to happen<br />
in order for you to feel good?<br />
The truth is that nothing has to happen in order for you to feel good. You don’t need an eclipse to feel<br />
good. You could feel good right now for absolutely no reason whatsoever! Think about it. If you make a<br />
million dollars, <strong>the</strong> million dollars doesn’t give you any pleasure. It’s your rule that says, “When I hit this<br />
mark, <strong>the</strong>n I’ll give myself permission to feel good.” In that moment, when you decide to feel good, you<br />
send a message to your brain to change your responses in <strong>the</strong> muscles of your face, chest, and body, to<br />
change your breathing, and to change <strong>the</strong> biochemistry within your nervous system that causes you to<br />
feel <strong>the</strong> sensations you call pleasure.<br />
Who do you think had <strong>the</strong> worst time <strong>the</strong> day of <strong>the</strong> eclipse? Those with <strong>the</strong> most intense rules about<br />
what had to happen before <strong>the</strong>y could feel good! There’s no doubt that <strong>the</strong> scientists, and <strong>the</strong> tourists<br />
who saw <strong>the</strong>mselves as scientists, probably had <strong>the</strong> most pain. Many of <strong>the</strong>m had huge agendas <strong>the</strong>y<br />
were trying to complete in those four minutes before <strong>the</strong>y could feel good about it.<br />
Don’t misunderstand; <strong>the</strong>re’s nothing wrong with being committed to accomplishing and doing everything<br />
you can. But years ago, I made a distinction that changed <strong>the</strong> quality of my life forever: as long as we<br />
structure our lives in a way where our happiness is dependent upon something we cannot control, <strong>the</strong>n<br />
we will experience pain. Since I wasn’t willing to live with <strong>the</strong> fear that pain could shake me anymore,<br />
and I considered myself to be intelligent, I redesigned my rules so that when I feel pain and when I feel<br />
pleasure is whenever I feel it’s appropriate based on my capacity to direct my own mind, body, and<br />
emotions. I enjoyed <strong>the</strong> eclipse immensely. I was in Hawaii for o<strong>the</strong>r reasons anyway (to conduct my threeweek<br />
Certification program), so coming here a few days early to watch <strong>the</strong> eclipse was a bonus.<br />
But <strong>the</strong> real reason I enjoyed it was not that I had low expectations; I was looking forward to it. The key<br />
to my happiness could be found in one rule: my rule for <strong>the</strong> day was that I was going to enjoy this event<br />
no matter what happened. It wasn’t that I didn’t have expectations; it was that I decided that no matter<br />
what happened, I’d find a way to enjoy it.<br />
Now, if you adopted and consistently applied this rule to your own life, can you see how that would<br />
change virtually everything you experience? When I tell people about this rule, some of <strong>the</strong>m respond,<br />
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