Tony Robbins -Re-Awaken_the_Giant_Within

of waiting for the outside world to do it. Based on these requirements, Laurie changed the order of some
of her values and completely changed her rules for achieving them. Here are her new values and rules:
LAURIE’S NEW MOVING-TOWARD VALUES AND RULES
Love: I experience love anytime I express love, give love to others, or allow myself to receive it.
Health: I am healthy when I acknowledge how wonderful I already feel!
Fun: I’m having fun when I find pleasure and joy in the process.
Gratitude: I feel grateful when I appreciate all the things I have in my life right now.
Freedom: I feel free when I live by my convictions and accept the choice to create happiness for myself.
Notice that fun is now a priority. This transformed her experience of life, not to mention her relationship
with her daughter and husband. But even more powerful were the changes she made in her rules.
Changing the values would have limited impact if the rules were unachievable. What has this woman
done? She has rewired her entire life so that she’s in control. You and I need to remember that our selfesteem
is tied to our ability to feel like we’re in control of the events in our environment. These rules
allow Laurie to always be in control without even trying.
Are her new rules for love achievable? You bet! Who’s in control? She is! At any moment in time, she
can decide to be loving to herself and others, and she’ll now have permission to give herself the emotion
called love. She’ll know she’s meeting her highest values. How often can she do this? Every single day!
There are lots of ways to do it because there are lots of people she can be loving to: herself, her family,
her friends, and strangers. How about her new rule for health? What’s beautiful about it is that not only
is she in charge—because she can acknowledge how wonderful she feels at any moment—and not
only is it achievable, but isn’t it true that if she regularly acknowledges feeling good, she’ll reinforce the
pattern of becoming more healthy?
In addition, Laurie adopted some new moving-away-from values. She selected emotions
she knew she had to avoid indulging in order to succeed: negativity and procrastination. Remember, we
want to reverse the process of how most of us are wired. We want to make it hard to feel bad, and easy
to feel good.
LAURIE’S NEW MOVING-AWAY-FROM VALUES AND RULES
Negativity: I avoid consistently depending on the acceptance of others for my ultimate happiness
and success.
Procrastination: I avoid consistently expecting perfection from myself and others.
With Laurie’s new moving-away-from rules, she no longer depends upon the acceptance of others. Her
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