Tony Robbins -Re-Awaken_the_Giant_Within

6. Each day, reassociate to what you love about this person you’re in a relationship with. Reinforce
your feelings of connection and renew your feelings of intimacy and attraction by consistently asking
the question, “How did I get so lucky to have you in my life?” Become fully associated to the privilege
of sharing your life with this person; feel the pleasure intensely, and continuously anchor it into your
nervous system. Engage in a never-ending quest to find new ways to surprise each other. If you don’t,
habituation will set in, and you will take each other for granted. So find and create those special
moments that can make your relationship a role model—one that’s legendary!
Today’s Assignment:
1. Take the time today to talk with your significant other and find out what’s most important to each
of you in your relationship. What are your highest values in a relationship together, and what has to
happen for you to feel like those values are being fulfilled?
2. Decide that it’s more important for you to be in love than to be right. If you should ever find
yourself in the position of insisting that you’re right, break your own pattern. Stop immediately and come
back to the discussion later when you’re in a better state to resolve your conflicts.
3. Develop a pattern interrupt that you both agree to use when things become most heated. In this
way, no matter how mad you are, for at least a moment you can smile and let go of the upset. To make
it easier for both of you, use the most bizarre or humorous pattern interrupt you can devise. Make it a
private joke that can serve as your personal anchor.
4. When you feel resistance, communicate it with softeners such as, “I know it’s only my idiosyncrasy,
but when you do that, it makes me a tad peevish.”
5. Plan regular date nights together, preferably once a week, or at the minimum, two times a month.
Take turns surprising your partner and dreaming up the most romantic and fun things to do.
6. Make sure you get a good, wet kiss every day!
These are your only assignments for today! Act upon them and enjoy them. I can promise you, the
rewards are immeasurable. To make sure that we commit to constant and never-ending improvement
(CANI!) on a daily basis, let’s develop an enjoyable plan in your . . .
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