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Illustration by Tim Teebken<br />
Easing back to school stress<br />
by Dr. Greg Allen<br />
Many kids and parents experience anxiety over going back to school<br />
from the morning rush, the homework, and the quicker pace of<br />
life. While this doesn’t mean we don’t like school, the changes<br />
‘back to school’ time brings (new teachers, new classmates, new material)<br />
can lead to increased stress. Here’s what young adult novelist Elizabeth<br />
Scott and I recommend parents can do for their kids and themselves to relieve<br />
back to school stress.<br />
Get enough sleep<br />
Over the summer, most families take their cues from the sun and and<br />
stay up late. With the start of school, adjust bedtime schedules and try to<br />
have everyone eat on a regular schedule. This advice isn’t just for little<br />
kids. Teens and adults need quality sleep for proper functioning, as well.<br />
Be ready<br />
Set aside a specific study area for your child, even for kindergarteners,<br />
most of whom have homework these days. Preparing that area can be a<br />
shared project. You may also want to get your routines ready ahead of time,<br />
such as having your kids lay out their clothes the night before and keeping<br />
their shoes by the door so they can find them in the morning.<br />
Talk<br />
One of the best ways to relieve back to school anxiety is simply to talk<br />
to your child about what he or she may be feeling. Let your child tell you<br />
what’s exciting about school as well as what may be anxiety-provoking. If<br />
your child expresses negativity about school, don’t discount his or her concerns.<br />
Instead, focus on validating their feelings. Then help find solutions<br />
to whatever is challenging to them. It may be another student, a teacher<br />
or coach, a subject, peers or even how they feel about themselves.<br />
Seek to understand what the main challenges are. It will be different for<br />
each kid and for each school year. Add in some more positive focus, like<br />
seeing friends, covering exciting new material, and growing up. These conversation<br />
times can also be a time to discuss important topics like how to<br />
handle bullies and peer pressure. Letting your child know you’ll be available<br />
for support. Open discussions can be a crucial to your relationship,<br />
as well as to your child’s success in school.<br />
Balance responsibilities<br />
Managing school is a shared task. While you don’t want to take away responsibility<br />
from your child or teen for managing their schedules, your<br />
support and guidance can be a positive motivator to your family functioning.<br />
Dr. Greg Allen, LMFT is a therapist with a group practice in Palos Verdes<br />
Estates and Hermosa Beach (drgregallen.com). He is the founder and director<br />
of Freedom4U, a non-profit organization focused on creative arts, life skills,<br />
leadership and service. (freedomcommunity.com). He may be reached at<br />
greg@freedomcommunity.com PEN<br />
<strong>Sept</strong>ember <strong>2017</strong> • <strong>Peninsula</strong> 65