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Practicing Assertiveness<br />
The way you speak, move, dress, and react can affect how you are treated by providers.<br />
Assertiveness experts offer these tips on getting results at an appointment or meeting:<br />
l Project the right image.<br />
l Dress neatly.<br />
l Shake hands firmly. Make strong eye contact.<br />
l Take time to organize records and paperwork.<br />
l Sit or stand in an upright but relaxed way. Keep your body still and relaxed.<br />
Fidgeting will make you seem uneasy or lacking in confidence.<br />
l If you feel nervous, practice what you want to say ahead of time.<br />
l Speak with confidence.<br />
l State clearly and calmly what you believe to be true (“I think that... I feel that...”).<br />
l Speak up in a strong tone of voice without asking for permission or making apologies.<br />
l Don’t try to attack, bully, blame, or shame the other person. Your goal is to solve<br />
problems, not win arguments.<br />
l Listen to the other person carefully. Show you are listening by wearing an alert, attentive<br />
expression.<br />
l Refer to the other person’s point of view when you give a different opinion (“I understand<br />
that you feel...,but I believe...”).<br />
l When you honestly agree with the person, say so. A little stroking never hurts (“Yes, that<br />
seems like a good idea.”).<br />
l Don’t raise your voice. If you aren’t satisfied, say so politely but firmly. Make suggestions.<br />
Ask for ideas.<br />
l Do NOT text while talking with others. It makes you look like you are avoiding the<br />
conversation or not paying attention.<br />
Show you expect results<br />
l Before you leave the room, briefly sum up the discussion, describing what each person has<br />
agreed to do (action items) in a certain amount of time. Follow up on those items in the<br />
agreed upon time.<br />
l State decisions in terms of “we” and “us” (“So, as I understand it, we’ve decided to...”).<br />
Remember, you are the other vote in the room.<br />
l If you think the other person may not clearly understand or stick to the agreement, send a<br />
note that sums up the decisions made in your meeting, or get a person you trust to help you<br />
with this, if necessary. Keep a copy for your files. In case of a conflict, this letter becomes<br />
part of the record to help you get results.<br />
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